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Deliberately disclosing your "shortcomings" is demonstrably a poor dating strategy, you lower your chances by doing it. You don't see supermarkets advertise by
by gspetr 9y ago
Deliberately disclosing your "shortcomings" is demonstrably a poor dating strategy, you lower your chances by doing it.
You don't see supermarkets advertise by saying that their product line is short, or their warehouses small.
EDIT: Checked the author's twitter (there's a link in the article) and he seems to have low self-esteem, judging by both the article and his "about" on twitter.
Low self-esteem creates a vicious circle of self-deprecation which is not going to help you succeed in whatever endeavor you embark on in life.
Next thing you know you come up with all sorts of rationalizations and excuses about why you will fail. The "I've got no car" is an ego defense mechanism to protect yourself when the date goes nowhere. "Yeah, it must have been because I had no car", when in truth, it was a combination of a number of factors, low confidence and self-doubt stemming from it is particularly repulsive to women.
Dunning-Krueger is king, while Impostor syndrome leads to ruin.
- jschwartzi 9y agoActually what he's doing is filtering all the women who consider it a shortcoming. I think it's a good way to find someone you can be honest with. If what I drive matters to my date that's a pretty good sign we're not going to get along, and frankly I would appreciate the honesty.
- gspetr 9y agoAfter dropping the "Listen, there's something I didn’t tell you." line you are going to have a very hard time framing it as anything else but shortcoming. A much better way to say it (if you have to say it) would be to talk about traveling and casually mention it.