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Is this even a question? Having spent my teenage years in what would otherwise be called a ghetto and now living in a wealthier suburb, poor neighborhoods have

Is this even a question? Having spent my teenage years in what would otherwise be called a ghetto and now living in a wealthier suburb, poor neighborhoods have way more selfish assholes. I'm very glad I got out of there. I think being an asshole hurts you more than is helps you as you get richer.

noja 9y ago
In one case you were looking at the world from the perspective of a poor boy, in the other from a rich earner.
cirgue 9y ago
> I think being an asshole hurts you more than is helps you as you get richer. As a product of private school: my experience is yes and no. There are certainly some behaviors that hurt your success, and there are plenty of extremely successful people who are successful specifically because they are excellent human beings all-around. There are also plenty of people who are financially successful because they are exceptionally selfish and generally horrible to others, but not in overt or combative ways.
mruniverse 9y ago
I have the same experience. When I was younger I was puzzled when my friends mom (richer family) was so nice. Cooked large breakfast for us when I stayed over, etc. And his friends were nice. And they talked normally to each other and were funny and clever. Where I came from, the norm was just anger. And the conversation was mostly putting each other down. Or challenging each other. Still trying to overcome that.
ozim 9y ago
For me maybe not a ghetto but dirt poor people that rest of a small city referred to as 'miracles street' (drunks, poor people, police visits once a month) had bunch of decent people and friends I think will have contact for life whereas I got to know quite some rich people who were maybe smooth in contact but in reality they were awful backstabbers. So your mileage may vary...
KGIII 9y ago
Sort of related, there are a lot of lessons learned and observations made when one changes social class. At some point in my life, I've been close to both extremes. I've been a poor college student with a family and just barely below the poverty line because of the dependents. I was firmly middle class for my youth and then after starting my business. Selling my business has put me in the upper class section. There are some broad stereotypes that can be made but the biggest difference I see is in how others respond to you and how the system responds to you.
tiggybear 9y ago
Depends how you look at it. I think rich people are more likely to look out for each other. You can often see this in the way our laws work, if the middle and lower classes are screwed over it's a huge fight to bring justice. But if rich people are screwed over, justice seems to come at a swift pace. I think rich people treat rich people better and poor and middle classes tend to treat each other like trash but treat rich people like they are gods.
manicdee 9y ago
In that scenario there are more factors determining behaviour than availability of money. A better comparison is between people in the same social bracket who have relatively more or less money, such as the Monopoly experiment where one player was given an intrinsic advantage. https://www.ted.com/talks/paul_piff_does_money_make_you_mean https://www.ted.com/talks/paul_piff_does_money_make_you_mean

noja 9y ago

In one case you were looking at the world from the perspective of a poor boy, in the other from a rich earner.

cirgue 9y ago

> I think being an asshole hurts you more than is helps you as you get richer. As a product of private school: my experience is yes and no. There are certainly some behaviors that hurt your success, and there are plenty of extremely successful people who are successful specifically because they are excellent human beings all-around. There are also plenty of people who are financially successful because they are exceptionally selfish and generally horrible to others, but not in overt or combative ways.

mruniverse 9y ago

I have the same experience. When I was younger I was puzzled when my friends mom (richer family) was so nice. Cooked large breakfast for us when I stayed over, etc. And his friends were nice. And they talked normally to each other and were funny and clever. Where I came from, the norm was just anger. And the conversation was mostly putting each other down. Or challenging each other. Still trying to overcome that.

ozim 9y ago

For me maybe not a ghetto but dirt poor people that rest of a small city referred to as 'miracles street' (drunks, poor people, police visits once a month) had bunch of decent people and friends I think will have contact for life whereas I got to know quite some rich people who were maybe smooth in contact but in reality they were awful backstabbers. So your mileage may vary...

KGIII 9y ago

Sort of related, there are a lot of lessons learned and observations made when one changes social class. At some point in my life, I've been close to both extremes. I've been a poor college student with a family and just barely below the poverty line because of the dependents. I was firmly middle class for my youth and then after starting my business. Selling my business has put me in the upper class section. There are some broad stereotypes that can be made but the biggest difference I see is in how others respond to you and how the system responds to you.

tiggybear 9y ago

Depends how you look at it. I think rich people are more likely to look out for each other. You can often see this in the way our laws work, if the middle and lower classes are screwed over it's a huge fight to bring justice. But if rich people are screwed over, justice seems to come at a swift pace. I think rich people treat rich people better and poor and middle classes tend to treat each other like trash but treat rich people like they are gods.

manicdee 9y ago

In that scenario there are more factors determining behaviour than availability of money. A better comparison is between people in the same social bracket who have relatively more or less money, such as the Monopoly experiment where one player was given an intrinsic advantage. https://www.ted.com/talks/paul_piff_does_money_make_you_mean https://www.ted.com/talks/paul_piff_does_money_make_you_mean