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I currently live in rural upstate New York. When a longtime friend of mine found out that I would soon be leaving to live in a big city in the south he yelled a
by iamatworknow 9y ago
I currently live in rural upstate New York. When a longtime friend of mine found out that I would soon be leaving to live in a big city in the south he yelled at me, called me an idiot, and said I would get raped and murdered there.
This is a guy in his mid-30's who has only ever visited a place with more than 10,000 people once, so his entire perception of what it's like in urban America is based off of the salacious news stories he reads online.
- jrs95 9y agoAs someone who recently moved to this city, he's not entirely wrong...in 2 years and without ever going to the "bad" parts of mine, I've been mugged in broad daylight, my roommate was assaulted randomly for no reason after his car broke down, I've had a guy threaten to kill me and follow me around when he sees me, and I get a postcard in the mail every other week or so telling me about another one of the homeless guys within a couple blocks of me's sex crimes, which almost always includes multiple offenses and at least one rape. One of my neighbors had two guys come run up at her, grab her dog, and run away with it. I've had 0 encounters with anything like this in the suburbs.
- iamatworknow 9y agoI'm sorry that you've experienced that kind of thing, but hopefully you also realize that not every urban area is like this, and maybe your neighborhood is or is becoming less "good" than you originally believed when you moved there.
- ocb 9y agoWhat kind of psychopath-filled nightmare land do you live in?
- jrs95 9y agoColumbus, OH lol I suppose I'm probably just unlucky, but you can't deny that the odds of this stuff happening goes way up in an urban area.
- wahern 9y agoApparently forcible rape is _less_ common in big cities: http://victimsofcrime.org/docs/default-source/ncvrw2015/2015ncvrw_stats_urbanrural.pdf?sfvrsn=2 But the arrest rate of perpetrators is much greater in the city. Unless I'm reading it wrong. Per the note, the two graphs aren't directly comparable. EDIT: Seems that Alaskans are incredibly rapey: http://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/Publications_NSVRC_Booklets_Unspoken-Crimes-Sexual-Assault-in-Rural-America%20.pdf http://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/Publications_NSVRC_...
- bmurphy1976 9y agoWell I've been living in Chicago for almost 20 years now and I've only been murdered a couple times. Happens to millions of people in this city every day don't you know?
- simonsarris 9y agoHm. http://heyjackass.com/ http://heyjackass.com/ Certainly not millions, but that's not something I'd be proud of. Nowhere in New Hampshire do people say "don't worry, its just certain parts that have all the violence."
- pavel_lishin 9y agoI mean, yes, murder is bad - but are the 58 people dead during September random strangers who got shot? Or is this the result of mostly gang/organized crime violence? You're not likely to die in a car crash if you don't drive a car.
- khedoros1 9y ago> You're not likely to die in a car crash if you don't drive a car. Unless you're collateral damage.
- simonsarris 9y agoMinor nit at this point but NHTSA just released their 2016 data. 37,641 die on US roads in 2016, including 5,987 pedestrians, 840 cyclists, for 18% of deaths. https://pbs.twimg.com/media/DLejbNAWsAMmDOO.jpg https://pbs.twimg.com/media/DLejbNAWsAMmDOO.jpg
- bmurphy1976 9y agoI agree it's terrible and Chicago could do better but my point is if you really look at the number this stuff is blown way out of proportion. That's no comfort for those who are affected by it, but the odds of it happening to you even in a place like Chicago if you just take a few minor precautions are vanishingly small.