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> Anecdotally... This sounds to me like nothing so much as confirmation bias. I've lived in SF for six years now, and gone on dozens of first (and far fewer, b

by rosser 9y ago

> Anecdotally... This sounds to me like nothing so much as confirmation bias. I've lived in SF for six years now, and gone on dozens of first (and far fewer, but still nonzero, subsequent) dates. While I do see some slight evidence for this notion, it's the exception, not the rule, in my experience. That is to say, "the plural of anecdote is not data."

saiya-jin 9y ago
I can attest from different high-earning places like Singapore and Geneva that this is generally unfortunately true. All written is valid in my (unfortunately somewhat bigger) experience and it actually makes complete sense, based on how human personalities develop & distort due to various environmental situations and pressures. I wish it wouldn't be so, many guys around me wishing the same, but simple truth is out there, day and night. It is still possible to find non-spoiled balanced good-hearted loving partner, but it is ridiculously hard even if you do proper filtering from the beginning and you really have stuff to offer (looks, personality, salary, cool adventurous life etc). Small places are like from another planet in this regard. Btw this is valid for both sexes, at least from what I can see from a straight guy perspective. After some time I generally stopped seeing any high-earning ladies, especially those in management/trading etc. Completely, utterly useless for serious relationships. Now happily engaged to a doctor, at least the part about good personality/heart is very true, but shared time can be sometimes counted in few hours/week. Hard, crushing work they have, and underpaid compared to some pathetic software dev position like mine.