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My fear is that I may need to choose between a great offer or the girl I am likely going to propose to. I'm a woman. There is no way in hell I would move to fo
by Mz 9y ago
My fear is that I may need to choose between a great offer or the girl I am likely going to propose to.
I'm a woman. There is no way in hell I would move to follow a boyfriend to a new city. But, I did follow my husband's military career all over the world.
Have you considered proposing? Tell her you want to take the offer and you want her to go with you, as your wife. See if that resolves it.
- CasillasQT 9y agothat makes zero sense
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- sevilo 9y agoactually, it doesn't make zero sense. I'm a woman as well, and I would much agree with the original comment, and other women have said the same to me that they wouldn't move with a man that is not their husband. I'm not sure proposing for the sake of getting her to move with OP is the right intention, but if he feels serious enough about the girl then I'd say do it. Unfortunately unlike men, it tends to be more difficult for women to find serious relationships when they're older, women only have limited amount of time of being able to reproduce. So even if women are not actively thinking about this, it is instinctive to only take the sacrifice of major life changes when we are able to tell there's a commitment to a relationship.
- relo_worries 9y agoI have considered proposing. Was even planning on setting up a surprise once we moved in. Then this offer across the country came up and turned everything upside down. I'd still do it in a heartbeat, but don't want her to think I'm proposing just to lure her across the country
- Mz 9y agoThen you should tell her exactly what you said to me here and see where the conversation goes after that. But, do give her a bit of time to digest it before you expect productive discussion. Maybe let her know the above, suggest she think it over for a day or two and get back to you.