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Can you explain why you don't want your photo on Facebook? It's one thing to chose to abstain from social media, but it feels more invasive to ask others to ch

by dmihal 9y ago

Can you explain why you don't want your photo on Facebook? It's one thing to chose to abstain from social media, but it feels more invasive to ask others to change what they post.

GuiA 9y ago
Because Facebook will still run its face detection algorithms etc., thus allowing them to build a database of information to resell to advertisers even if you don’t have an explicitly created Facebook page. I don’t see how asking friends to not post pictures of you online is invasive. However, posting pictures of someone online if they’ve asked you not to is extremely rude.
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devmunchies 9y ago
I ran into someone on the street who I haven't seen since high school (almost 10 years ago). She knew from Facebook that I had recently had a child. I don't use Facebook, but my wife does. The thing is that this old acquaintance doesn't follow my wife on fb. Facebook is still profiling me. Its weird.
heroprotagonist 9y ago
If it's invasive to not post personal data of other people on the internet, then the definition has certainly shifted over the years.. Controlling might be a better word, in that I request respect for my belief that my personal data is my own, to share or not share with whatever corporation I decide. This is usually forestalled from being much of an issue by being up-front about it. EG, when I see someone new is going to take a photo of me, I try to say something before they take the photo instead of afterwards, and offer to leave so they can get their photograph without me if they seem perturbed. This way they can decide, "Do I still take this photo, and remember not to put it on Facebook? Or do I take it with the intent to share it despite his wishes? Or do I simply wait 3 seconds for him to move?"
lostlogin 9y ago
A recent scenario. Kid gets their face painted and it seemed to take longer and look better than the few in the line ahead of us. When finished the person running the operation pulled out a camera and asked to take a photo “For my Facebook feed”.
- jacalata 9y ago
  That's not an explanation, and that's clearly someone trying to show off their work that happens to be on your kid (aka use them as an ad), not a friend trying to post a picture of the two of you at a party.
explainThis 9y ago
The idea that this demands explanation is somewhat outrageous. Everyone has had unflattering photographs taken of them, and most people know how it feels to be embarrassed by a bad photo. I'm sure you know what it feels like to have pictures of you laughed at. Some pictures are seriously confidence sapping, and others are downright ruinous. Even pictures that don't seem terrible to the outsider, can seem just as bad to a person who lacks confidence to begin with, even if irrationally so.

by dmihal 9y ago

Can you explain why you don't want your photo on Facebook? It's one thing to chose to abstain from social media, but it feels more invasive to ask others to change what they post.

GuiA 9y ago

Because Facebook will still run its face detection algorithms etc., thus allowing them to build a database of information to resell to advertisers even if you don’t have an explicitly created Facebook page. I don’t see how asking friends to not post pictures of you online is invasive. However, posting pictures of someone online if they’ve asked you not to is extremely rude.

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devmunchies 9y ago

I ran into someone on the street who I haven't seen since high school (almost 10 years ago). She knew from Facebook that I had recently had a child. I don't use Facebook, but my wife does. The thing is that this old acquaintance doesn't follow my wife on fb. Facebook is still profiling me. Its weird.

heroprotagonist 9y ago

If it's invasive to not post personal data of other people on the internet, then the definition has certainly shifted over the years.. Controlling might be a better word, in that I request respect for my belief that my personal data is my own, to share or not share with whatever corporation I decide. This is usually forestalled from being much of an issue by being up-front about it. EG, when I see someone new is going to take a photo of me, I try to say something before they take the photo instead of afterwards, and offer to leave so they can get their photograph without me if they seem perturbed. This way they can decide, "Do I still take this photo, and remember not to put it on Facebook? Or do I take it with the intent to share it despite his wishes? Or do I simply wait 3 seconds for him to move?"

lostlogin 9y ago

A recent scenario. Kid gets their face painted and it seemed to take longer and look better than the few in the line ahead of us. When finished the person running the operation pulled out a camera and asked to take a photo “For my Facebook feed”.

jacalata 9y ago
That's not an explanation, and that's clearly someone trying to show off their work that happens to be on your kid (aka use them as an ad), not a friend trying to post a picture of the two of you at a party.

explainThis 9y ago

The idea that this demands explanation is somewhat outrageous. Everyone has had unflattering photographs taken of them, and most people know how it feels to be embarrassed by a bad photo. I'm sure you know what it feels like to have pictures of you laughed at. Some pictures are seriously confidence sapping, and others are downright ruinous. Even pictures that don't seem terrible to the outsider, can seem just as bad to a person who lacks confidence to begin with, even if irrationally so.