> We are trained to be lone wolves from the beginning in American culture. I don't understand how people can then years later come around and act like their chi

> We are trained to be lone wolves from the beginning in American culture. I don't understand how people can then years later come around and act like their children can be trusted not to be lone wolves when it comes to their care. Well, presumably the parents knew how they raised their children and what examples they set. And I really mean it by examples -- children pay a lot more attention to what their parents do than what they claim to do. E.g. I think I'd be fine trusting my future kids if they see me responsibly taking care of my parents. If not though, all bets are off.