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I deactivated first for about 6 months, didn't get any communication from them. Eventually I went to delete and used a link from deletefacebook.com taking me st

by dnel 9y ago

I deactivated first for about 6 months, didn't get any communication from them. Eventually I went to delete and used a link from deletefacebook.com taking me straight to the right page. Maybe it was because I was on mobile but there wasn't any emotional blackmail begging me to stay and it was done. I was expecting much worse but the experience was quite smooth for me and I'm happily free of Facebook for good now.

mezuzi 9y ago
Enjoy real life!! In the months I had no Facebook, life was amazing and I was more productive, though a bit lonely mainly because I live in a foreign country adn my family is thousands of miles away.
- dnel 9y ago
  Both of my siblings live abroad but I stay in touch through messaging. Facebook always made me feel my relationships there were shallow, and many people I regularly interacted with never followed up off-site. For me this is a good thing. Pruning false relationships frees up time to invest properly in those relationships that really matter. Facebook gets in the way of social relationships, you can't see who really matters while you're distracted talking to people you'll probably never meet again. Quality > Quantity every time.
ballenf 9y ago
Psychological lesson in that: The best advice I've ever read for the spouse who is on the receiving end of a divorce request/demand and wishes for reparation is to acquiesce quickly and approach the ordeal as a business transaction. You'll find story after story of anecdotes of that working to allow a couple to repair relations and figure out what was broken. Much better than being very emotional and otherwise reinforcing the reasons for the divorce request in the first place. I think FB is being wise in taking this approach considering how difficult it is to find the real "delete" as opposed to "pause" button. That's a lesson I've applied to many areas of business to very good outcomes -- customers wishing to terminate, etc.
eighthnate 9y ago
> Eventually I went to delete and used a link from deletefacebook.com taking me straight to the right page. Just out of curiosity, does anyone know whether by "deleting" your account, facebook removes your account/data completely or do they just mark your account deleted? Is facebook required to remove your account from all data sources ( dbs, failover sites, recovery sites and even the backup tapes )? I know certain sites, when you "delete" your account, it just updates a column marking your account "deleted" or "inactive". But I'm most curious about the backup tapes of logs/data.
- dnel 9y ago
  I don't know how certain we can really be, I had the same concerns myself, I could just keep my account disabled and stop feeding information to Facebook but still keep access to it myself if I ever needed it. Or I delete my account, Facebook maybe has access to that data but I do not, it was a thought process that delayed my action for a while. This non-committal situation created some anxiety for me, it was a decision that still needed to be made in my mind so wouldn't go away. Then Bryan Lunduke went through the process on his YouTube channel and he claims his contacts at Facebook were unable to find his data once it was deleted, so that was good enough to push me off the fence and I finally made the decision to delete. I can never be absolutely certain but there's really not much more I can do besides use European privacy laws to try and force the issue, but that probably won't do much about the NSA backup. ;) But my mind is at rest now, I don't worry about it apart from doing my best to limit tracking online but that's another story.

by dnel 9y ago

mezuzi 9y ago

Enjoy real life!! In the months I had no Facebook, life was amazing and I was more productive, though a bit lonely mainly because I live in a foreign country adn my family is thousands of miles away.

dnel 9y ago
Both of my siblings live abroad but I stay in touch through messaging. Facebook always made me feel my relationships there were shallow, and many people I regularly interacted with never followed up off-site. For me this is a good thing. Pruning false relationships frees up time to invest properly in those relationships that really matter. Facebook gets in the way of social relationships, you can't see who really matters while you're distracted talking to people you'll probably never meet again. Quality > Quantity every time.

ballenf 9y ago

Psychological lesson in that: The best advice I've ever read for the spouse who is on the receiving end of a divorce request/demand and wishes for reparation is to acquiesce quickly and approach the ordeal as a business transaction. You'll find story after story of anecdotes of that working to allow a couple to repair relations and figure out what was broken. Much better than being very emotional and otherwise reinforcing the reasons for the divorce request in the first place. I think FB is being wise in taking this approach considering how difficult it is to find the real "delete" as opposed to "pause" button. That's a lesson I've applied to many areas of business to very good outcomes -- customers wishing to terminate, etc.

eighthnate 9y ago

> Eventually I went to delete and used a link from deletefacebook.com taking me straight to the right page. Just out of curiosity, does anyone know whether by "deleting" your account, facebook removes your account/data completely or do they just mark your account deleted? Is facebook required to remove your account from all data sources ( dbs, failover sites, recovery sites and even the backup tapes )? I know certain sites, when you "delete" your account, it just updates a column marking your account "deleted" or "inactive". But I'm most curious about the backup tapes of logs/data.

dnel 9y ago
I don't know how certain we can really be, I had the same concerns myself, I could just keep my account disabled and stop feeding information to Facebook but still keep access to it myself if I ever needed it. Or I delete my account, Facebook maybe has access to that data but I do not, it was a thought process that delayed my action for a while. This non-committal situation created some anxiety for me, it was a decision that still needed to be made in my mind so wouldn't go away. Then Bryan Lunduke went through the process on his YouTube channel and he claims his contacts at Facebook were unable to find his data once it was deleted, so that was good enough to push me off the fence and I finally made the decision to delete. I can never be absolutely certain but there's really not much more I can do besides use European privacy laws to try and force the issue, but that probably won't do much about the NSA backup. ;) But my mind is at rest now, I don't worry about it apart from doing my best to limit tracking online but that's another story.