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May I ask, as a minority member to a minority member: Why do you feel like other people hate you or your "kind"? I'd argue its because they hold some pre-exis

May I ask, as a minority member to a minority member: Why do you feel like other people hate you or your "kind"? I'd argue its because they hold some pre-existing assumptions about you. Do you not feel like giving up on these "haters" is because you've got a pre-existing assumption about them? Specifically that more-or-less they are the type of people who will always hate? Their assumptions cause them to not want you around them. Your assumptions cause you to not want to be around them. Aren't those both identical? Aren't they both negative beliefs? You might not be able to change anyone else mind, but you are the only person who can change yours. It is definitely more taxing, and I may be wrong, but isn't it energy well spent, to hold onto a positive belief over a negative one?

noobermin 9y ago
>Why do you feel like other people hate you or your "kind"? In the aggregate, stereotypes, negative towards me and positive towards themselves. Essentially what you say in your next sentence, although I'd argue there are unfairly positive stereotypes for themselves too that place them in a better place than others. Might be like the "positive self-illusions" most healthy people have on a personal level[0]. >Do you not feel like giving up on these "haters" is because you've got a pre-existing assumption about them? Specifically that more-or-less they are the type of people who will always hate? The difference here is I don't condemn a particular group of people or adherents to an ideology or set of nationals, all people are sticky in their pre-conceived notions. This has been demonstrated by psychological research, and I've run into this issue with all people I've met in my life, and surprise, not just over politics, but over all issues: choice of editor, choice of psuedocolor colormap, choice of programming language, etc. The sooner in life in general you stop trying to "save" people, the happier you become. The subtext here I feel is that you are arguing racial stereotypes are in the same category as research approved by psychologists, but this is such a category error; it's like saying a page and a book are the same because they both have words. A racial stereotype is much lazier than one that is born through statistics, for example. [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_illusions#Benefits_and_liabilities https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_illusions#Benefits_an...

noobermin 9y ago

>Why do you feel like other people hate you or your "kind"? In the aggregate, stereotypes, negative towards me and positive towards themselves. Essentially what you say in your next sentence, although I'd argue there are unfairly positive stereotypes for themselves too that place them in a better place than others. Might be like the "positive self-illusions" most healthy people have on a personal level[0]. >Do you not feel like giving up on these "haters" is because you've got a pre-existing assumption about them? Specifically that more-or-less they are the type of people who will always hate? The difference here is I don't condemn a particular group of people or adherents to an ideology or set of nationals, all people are sticky in their pre-conceived notions. This has been demonstrated by psychological research, and I've run into this issue with all people I've met in my life, and surprise, not just over politics, but over all issues: choice of editor, choice of psuedocolor colormap, choice of programming language, etc. The sooner in life in general you stop trying to "save" people, the happier you become. The subtext here I feel is that you are arguing racial stereotypes are in the same category as research approved by psychologists, but this is such a category error; it's like saying a page and a book are the same because they both have words. A racial stereotype is much lazier than one that is born through statistics, for example. [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_illusions#Benefits_and_liabilities https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_illusions#Benefits_an...