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Im at the point where I am going to be forced to be outright rude Our society is at a point where there are large numbers of people who think their feelings tr

Im at the point where I am going to be forced to be outright rude Our society is at a point where there are large numbers of people who think their feelings trump larger concerns, like those of the workplace, their job, driver/pedestrian safety, and the rule of law. There is a set of ideas that involves executive function, the delay of gratification, the adherence to ideals, and subsuming the petty ego. It's called being an adult. If you think your feelings trump such concerns, take a good, hard look at yourself. Are you a narcissist? Do you really subscribe to an objective reality in your actions? If you are hiring people, look for people who are the opposite to the above.

brailsafe 9y ago
While you do have a point, it's not much of a stretch to go from that point to sacrificing your overall life satisfaction for the sake of the job/work/whatever arbitrary societal standard exists. To elaborate on that (I'm not suggesting this is your message, though it may be), when I was only a few years younger having lucked into a lucrative job, I took work hyper seriously. I looked down on and distanced myself—intentionally and unintentionally—from those that didn't do the same. A year and half ago I lost my job and couldn't find other work (still jobless) and now have a different perspective. Now I look at people who work like I did with bemusement. What I see is people not putting themselves first, or at least not high enough. To do the same again, I'd need to convince myself that this is idea of success is better in some way than my own. That's not about ego, that's about honesty.
- stcredzero 9y ago
  As in many things, there is a balance. You should put yourself first in terms of the balance of your overall life. You should not put your ego first in terms of the fidelity of information you get from the universe! Those are two very different things. If one starts to conflate one's overall personal goals with how they feel about momentary feedback -- this is one of the roads to madness!
  - brailsafe 9y ago
    I agree. It's not how things get done.

brailsafe 9y ago

While you do have a point, it's not much of a stretch to go from that point to sacrificing your overall life satisfaction for the sake of the job/work/whatever arbitrary societal standard exists. To elaborate on that (I'm not suggesting this is your message, though it may be), when I was only a few years younger having lucked into a lucrative job, I took work hyper seriously. I looked down on and distanced myself—intentionally and unintentionally—from those that didn't do the same. A year and half ago I lost my job and couldn't find other work (still jobless) and now have a different perspective. Now I look at people who work like I did with bemusement. What I see is people not putting themselves first, or at least not high enough. To do the same again, I'd need to convince myself that this is idea of success is better in some way than my own. That's not about ego, that's about honesty.

stcredzero 9y ago
As in many things, there is a balance. You should put yourself first in terms of the balance of your overall life. You should not put your ego first in terms of the fidelity of information you get from the universe! Those are two very different things. If one starts to conflate one's overall personal goals with how they feel about momentary feedback -- this is one of the roads to madness!
- brailsafe 9y ago
  I agree. It's not how things get done.