No, I'm arguing that I should have a choice wether to be a member of a society and as a result get all the benefits thereof and be subject to that society's law

No, I'm arguing that I should have a choice wether to be a member of a society and as a result get all the benefits thereof and be subject to that society's laws, or not. It's a package deal. I either join the club, benefit from being a member, and have to play by the clubs rules or I don't.