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I think you and the parent comment have completely missed her point. > Not to mention the 'emotional labor' of working full time to keep a family afloat. She
by EarthIsHome 9y ago
I think you and the parent comment have completely missed her point.
> Not to mention the 'emotional labor' of working full time to keep a family afloat.
She mentions this exact same defense that many men say. You also don't know their income breakdown; she has a job, she's freelanced, while also making household and familial decisions.
- nxsynonym 9y agoShe doesn't have a point other than "I want more help around the house and my husband won't listen". That's not a failing of anything other than the husband's ability to listen and her ability to be upfront with her expectations. Income breakdown is irrelevant.
- mercutio2 9y agoThis particular author’s arguments are irritating, self-centered, and over-generalized, so I’m not really defending the piece. But the author is quite explicit that her husband does any task asked; what she’s asking for is that he take more initiative and not require praise when he does so. I agree with many other commenters that coming to consensus on “everyone in the family is expected to spend 2 minutes every evening putting away things they’ve taken out without requiring nagging or praise” is a very low bar and should not be a hard communication problem to solve in a healthy relationship.