Long ago, I heard someone remark, "some women will marry a man, and immediately try to change him into something that he is not and never was. It never works, a

Long ago, I heard someone remark, "some women will marry a man, and immediately try to change him into something that he is not and never was. It never works, and they both end up frustrated and miserable." In the ensuing decades, I've watched that scenario play out many times, with both genders in both directions. (But mostly it was the woman trying to change the man.)