I want to say that I partly agree with you, but partly that I want to enhance what you've said a bit. I think stating it in terms of weakness is something that

I want to say that I partly agree with you, but partly that I want to enhance what you've said a bit. I think stating it in terms of weakness is something that will help some men understand where they need to bring up their game. I know that I need to bring up my game in this area, and hearing you say it like that is a goad to me to do better. So on that front, I agree with you, and I thank you for stating this in a way that's motivating to me. Where I'm not in total agreement is just the example you picked. I would say that "household finances" has often historically been "men's work," especially when you think about investing and retirement planning. I don't want the author's other examples to get lost here. Cleaning and hair braiding were much closer to the heart of the things that I myself have been too "weak and ineffectual" to accomplish, in your words. When I think about how I could make my wife's life better, these types of things, not the finances, seem like the right place for me to start looking. Obviously, in every couple, there are going to be different things, but I'd guess in most cases this, not finances, is closer to the heart of where things are off.