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>why should people's social lives be built outside work? Because it is much more genuine, easier, and less risky. There are countless laws, regulations, and p

>why should people's social lives be built outside work? Because it is much more genuine, easier, and less risky. There are countless laws, regulations, and policies dictating how one is to act in the workplace: you must dress this way, you must use only approved language (no swearing), you must not speak on controversial topics, you must not offend anyone. A simple joke can get you reported to human resources and potentially fired.

icebraining 9y ago
Because it is much more genuine, easier, and less risky. Right, but they're not mutually exclusive, so how they compare relatively is irrelevant. There are countless laws, regulations, and policies dictating how one is to act in the workplace: you must dress this way, you must use only approved language (no swearing), you must not speak on controversial topics, you must not offend anyone. Every social situation has its rules with which one must comply. The workplace may be more restricted than one's home or a bar, but hell, even in totalitarian states with political polices people managed to have friends. If one is in a particularly bad workplace, or have difficulty reading its social context, sure - it's better to keep one's head down and be merely polite. But as a rule, seems quite excessive.
- heedlessly2 9y ago
  certain topics are off-limits for discussion with coworkers even if they occur away from the office. For example, if I feel strongly about pro-choice but my coworker, she feels very strongly about pro-life, then there may be some extra politics I need to deal with work. While she might not directly shown her distain, instead it'll be a bunch of subtle things she does that negatively affect the relationship. Ideally, political interest would have no effect, but realistic they might. I'd rather not take that chance. That's why I only talk politics with friend outside work. Secondly, I'd personally rather not talk about my private relationships and family with coworkers. If i was going through a divorce, I would not talk about that even with my closest coworker.Again, I would discuss that with a close friend outside of work. At work, people's status matters more. You always want to portray an image to look strong, positive. At work everybody has a job title, with friends outside of work, there are less stakes on 'status'.

icebraining 9y ago

Because it is much more genuine, easier, and less risky. Right, but they're not mutually exclusive, so how they compare relatively is irrelevant. There are countless laws, regulations, and policies dictating how one is to act in the workplace: you must dress this way, you must use only approved language (no swearing), you must not speak on controversial topics, you must not offend anyone. Every social situation has its rules with which one must comply. The workplace may be more restricted than one's home or a bar, but hell, even in totalitarian states with political polices people managed to have friends. If one is in a particularly bad workplace, or have difficulty reading its social context, sure - it's better to keep one's head down and be merely polite. But as a rule, seems quite excessive.

heedlessly2 9y ago
certain topics are off-limits for discussion with coworkers even if they occur away from the office. For example, if I feel strongly about pro-choice but my coworker, she feels very strongly about pro-life, then there may be some extra politics I need to deal with work. While she might not directly shown her distain, instead it'll be a bunch of subtle things she does that negatively affect the relationship. Ideally, political interest would have no effect, but realistic they might. I'd rather not take that chance. That's why I only talk politics with friend outside work. Secondly, I'd personally rather not talk about my private relationships and family with coworkers. If i was going through a divorce, I would not talk about that even with my closest coworker.Again, I would discuss that with a close friend outside of work. At work, people's status matters more. You always want to portray an image to look strong, positive. At work everybody has a job title, with friends outside of work, there are less stakes on 'status'.