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Look, someone asked "Why would you work" and then made an assertion that paints alimony as some kind of cushy free ride for life. I am saying this is not true:

• adekok 9y ago
  > Even if a woman gets alimony, she probably also needs to work. ... if she wants to maintain the same lifestyle. If she's willing to take on a lower standard of living, perhaps not. > Comments like yours are essentially twisting my intent to an extreme degree. That's just untrue. > I did not expect to have people pile on and act like I am some overentitled lazy bum I did no such thing. > Edit: It appears you are that someone. Nope. You're not reading my comments. I clearly said that alimony is deserved compensation. I understand your frustration that people are taking a somewhat counter position. But the point here is to not blame you or to say you "deserve" to be poor. The point is to have a discussion on responsibility. Why are people being compensated? How much should they be compensated? For how long should that be paid? For me, if you're married for 2 years, and pay alimony for 50, that's abusive and wrong. Saying so shouldn't be interpreted as an attack on you personally. Please learn to distinguish a discussion on the topic of alimony from a personal attack on you. There are absolutely not the same thing.