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> alimony tends to not adequately support a middle class lifestyle by itself. Should it? I mean, let's say we have a happy "leave it beaver" family with 2.2

by adekok 9y ago

> alimony tends to not adequately support a middle class lifestyle by itself. Should it? I mean, let's say we have a happy "leave it beaver" family with 2.2 kids, a white picket fence, a dad who works, and a mom who doesn't. Due to no fault in particular, they get divorced. They now have two households to maintain instead of one. Why would both people deserve a "middle class lifestyle"? Their expenses have each gone up, and the total income hasn't changed. How can you split one "middle class lifestyle" into two, and obtain two of the same thing?

Mz 9y ago
Look, someone asked "Why would you work" and then made an assertion that paints alimony as some kind of cushy free ride for life. I am saying this is not true: Even if a woman gets alimony, she probably also needs to work. Comments like yours are essentially twisting my intent to an extreme degree. I did not expect to have people pile on and act like I am some overentitled lazy bum for explaining some of my reasons why I also work, in addition to getting alimony. Geez. Edit: It appears you are that someone. So, which is it? Alimony is a cushy free ride? Or not?
- adekok 9y ago
  > Even if a woman gets alimony, she probably also needs to work. ... if she wants to maintain the same lifestyle. If she's willing to take on a lower standard of living, perhaps not. > Comments like yours are essentially twisting my intent to an extreme degree. That's just untrue. > I did not expect to have people pile on and act like I am some overentitled lazy bum I did no such thing. > Edit: It appears you are that someone. Nope. You're not reading my comments. I clearly said that alimony is deserved compensation. I understand your frustration that people are taking a somewhat counter position. But the point here is to not blame you or to say you "deserve" to be poor. The point is to have a discussion on responsibility. Why are people being compensated? How much should they be compensated? For how long should that be paid? For me, if you're married for 2 years, and pay alimony for 50, that's abusive and wrong. Saying so shouldn't be interpreted as an attack on you personally. Please learn to distinguish a discussion on the topic of alimony from a personal attack on you. There are absolutely not the same thing.

by adekok 9y ago

Mz 9y ago

Look, someone asked "Why would you work" and then made an assertion that paints alimony as some kind of cushy free ride for life. I am saying this is not true: Even if a woman gets alimony, she probably also needs to work. Comments like yours are essentially twisting my intent to an extreme degree. I did not expect to have people pile on and act like I am some overentitled lazy bum for explaining some of my reasons why I also work, in addition to getting alimony. Geez. Edit: It appears you are that someone. So, which is it? Alimony is a cushy free ride? Or not?

adekok 9y ago
> Even if a woman gets alimony, she probably also needs to work. ... if she wants to maintain the same lifestyle. If she's willing to take on a lower standard of living, perhaps not. > Comments like yours are essentially twisting my intent to an extreme degree. That's just untrue. > I did not expect to have people pile on and act like I am some overentitled lazy bum I did no such thing. > Edit: It appears you are that someone. Nope. You're not reading my comments. I clearly said that alimony is deserved compensation. I understand your frustration that people are taking a somewhat counter position. But the point here is to not blame you or to say you "deserve" to be poor. The point is to have a discussion on responsibility. Why are people being compensated? How much should they be compensated? For how long should that be paid? For me, if you're married for 2 years, and pay alimony for 50, that's abusive and wrong. Saying so shouldn't be interpreted as an attack on you personally. Please learn to distinguish a discussion on the topic of alimony from a personal attack on you. There are absolutely not the same thing.