> they were already in debt $80k from school, but still wanted a ceremony that could have easily cost $40K In fairness, "working class" people are usually not

> they were already in debt $80k from school, but still wanted a ceremony that could have easily cost $40K In fairness, "working class" people are usually not asking for $40k wedding ceremonies (or carrying $80k in student loan debt). This sounds like a valid reason for you to not want to marry your Ex, but I don't think this is a significant contributing factor for most working-class people, who don't generally plan absurdly lavish ceremonies.