Yes, that is what I am saying (conditionally). I realise this is a contrarian thing to say. Again the level of trust is going to vary between relationships, an

Yes, that is what I am saying (conditionally). I realise this is a contrarian thing to say. Again the level of trust is going to vary between relationships, and what has happened in the relationship and the character of the individuals involved. Marriage obviously has explicit promises, but there is a general social contract. This whole don't mention gender thing is very tedious and borderline thought police. It is simply not that offensive what I am writing. If it doesn't apply to you and yours then good for you. In any case it was grounding it in personal experience.