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I don't understand what reality a person lives in where their first response after a crime as serious as sexual assault is to go complain to Uber rather than go

I don't understand what reality a person lives in where their first response after a crime as serious as sexual assault is to go complain to Uber rather than go directly to the police. That said Uber should have advised the victim to contact the police immediately.

DanBC 9y ago
You don't understand the reality of sexual assault, where many victims don't report to police because of precisely the kind of bullshit dismissal we see in this thread.
- lerie82 9y ago
  Who are you to decide what someone understands? If someone is sexually assaulted and reports it to Uber and not the police, I'd bet money that person is a liar.
  - gr3yh47 9y ago
    >If someone is sexually assaulted and reports it to Uber and not the police, >that person is a liar. non sequitur
    - ghostbrainalpha 9y ago
      What is going on with this site? Have these people never used UBER before??? The reason they are reporting it to Uber is because when you get out of the car, you are immediately prompted for a rating and a TIP for the driver! Uber is almost forcing you to report a driver who makes you feel uncomfortable. I'm not saying they shouldn't call the police AFTER. But there is nothing strange about them reporting this instance through Uber's channels.
      - SyneRyder 9y ago
        when you get out of the car, you are immediately prompted for a rating and a TIP for the driver! Uber is almost forcing you to report a driver who makes you feel uncomfortable. Not only that, but if you get out of the car before you reach your destination, Uber displays a large dialog asking if everything is okay and if you need to report a problem. I can't find a screenshot of that exact dialog, but it included some of the options at the bottom of this screenshot (eg I was involved in an accident, My driver was unprofessional.) https://media.consumeraffairs.com/files/reviews/uber_163101.PNG https://media.consumeraffairs.com/files/reviews/uber_163101....
- olalonde 9y ago
  Even if the police dismiss your claim, don't they keep a note somewhere and pay more attention the second time the guy is reported?
- rorykoehler 9y ago
  Maybe I don't. Doesn't really change anything. You go to the Police to report crimes and she went to Uber. If your SO get's murdered in McDonalds I would better my bottom dollar your first reaction wouldn't be to seek out McDonald's management.
WisNorCan 9y ago
"Shock and numbness: Feelings of confusion, being easily overwhelmed, not knowing how to feel or what to do, feeling “spacey” or “out of it.” You may react in a way that is similar to your reactions during other crises in your life (for example with tears, irritability, nervous laughter, withdrawing)." https://sapac.umich.edu/article/161 https://sapac.umich.edu/article/161
anduniz 9y ago
The choice of words is the key. “He sexually assaulted her” actually means “he gave her a hug”. It’s evident she wouldn’t report something like that to the police. Reporting an unwanted hug (to the police, not to the media) as a “sexual assault” is clearly not going to fly.
- aseipp 9y ago
  I like how the frustrated randos who create accounts on this site purely to justify sexual violence against women can't even be assed to read the article. The one where the police were given the evidence and it's now going to court: > It is also worth noting that once Uber supplied police with the victim’s details both have welcomed us contacting them and have fully assisted with the prosecutions. Both cases were charged as sexual assaults and are at court next week for hearing. I strongly suggest being, like, 1000% less overt with your next account. Then, your position on the matter will only be "very obvious", not "mind-numbingly, unbelievably obvious"
- pwinnski 9y ago
  Whatever happened, she did in fact report it to the police (after realizing that Uber wasn't going to on her behalf) and it is coming up in the courts. Presumably the courts will hear her characterization of the events then, as well as Uber's, which is all we've heard so far ("he gave her a hug").

DanBC 9y ago

You don't understand the reality of sexual assault, where many victims don't report to police because of precisely the kind of bullshit dismissal we see in this thread.

lerie82 9y ago
Who are you to decide what someone understands? If someone is sexually assaulted and reports it to Uber and not the police, I'd bet money that person is a liar.
- gr3yh47 9y ago
  >If someone is sexually assaulted and reports it to Uber and not the police, >that person is a liar. non sequitur
  - ghostbrainalpha 9y ago
    What is going on with this site? Have these people never used UBER before??? The reason they are reporting it to Uber is because when you get out of the car, you are immediately prompted for a rating and a TIP for the driver! Uber is almost forcing you to report a driver who makes you feel uncomfortable. I'm not saying they shouldn't call the police AFTER. But there is nothing strange about them reporting this instance through Uber's channels.
    - SyneRyder 9y ago
      when you get out of the car, you are immediately prompted for a rating and a TIP for the driver! Uber is almost forcing you to report a driver who makes you feel uncomfortable. Not only that, but if you get out of the car before you reach your destination, Uber displays a large dialog asking if everything is okay and if you need to report a problem. I can't find a screenshot of that exact dialog, but it included some of the options at the bottom of this screenshot (eg I was involved in an accident, My driver was unprofessional.) https://media.consumeraffairs.com/files/reviews/uber_163101.PNG https://media.consumeraffairs.com/files/reviews/uber_163101....
olalonde 9y ago
Even if the police dismiss your claim, don't they keep a note somewhere and pay more attention the second time the guy is reported?
rorykoehler 9y ago
Maybe I don't. Doesn't really change anything. You go to the Police to report crimes and she went to Uber. If your SO get's murdered in McDonalds I would better my bottom dollar your first reaction wouldn't be to seek out McDonald's management.

WisNorCan 9y ago

"Shock and numbness: Feelings of confusion, being easily overwhelmed, not knowing how to feel or what to do, feeling “spacey” or “out of it.” You may react in a way that is similar to your reactions during other crises in your life (for example with tears, irritability, nervous laughter, withdrawing)." https://sapac.umich.edu/article/161 https://sapac.umich.edu/article/161

anduniz 9y ago

The choice of words is the key. “He sexually assaulted her” actually means “he gave her a hug”. It’s evident she wouldn’t report something like that to the police. Reporting an unwanted hug (to the police, not to the media) as a “sexual assault” is clearly not going to fly.

aseipp 9y ago
I like how the frustrated randos who create accounts on this site purely to justify sexual violence against women can't even be assed to read the article. The one where the police were given the evidence and it's now going to court: > It is also worth noting that once Uber supplied police with the victim’s details both have welcomed us contacting them and have fully assisted with the prosecutions. Both cases were charged as sexual assaults and are at court next week for hearing. I strongly suggest being, like, 1000% less overt with your next account. Then, your position on the matter will only be "very obvious", not "mind-numbingly, unbelievably obvious"
pwinnski 9y ago
Whatever happened, she did in fact report it to the police (after realizing that Uber wasn't going to on her behalf) and it is coming up in the courts. Presumably the courts will hear her characterization of the events then, as well as Uber's, which is all we've heard so far ("he gave her a hug").