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I'm sorry, it is conditionally worded and is grounded in my personal experiences. You can have your view, but don't sling ignorant insults. Perhaps try to show

I'm sorry, it is conditionally worded and is grounded in my personal experiences. You can have your view, but don't sling ignorant insults. Perhaps try to show me why it is wrong? Or perhaps open your mind as to why someone might think it is the case.

Nursie 9y ago
You've just said that marriage breakup for women is worse than for men, because it leaves them without something to be mad at! And somehow you think that's not sexist....
- lsd5you 9y ago
  It 'can be worse' if there is no cheating. My position to the extent that it is sexist is that it may even be worse for them on average. You just seem to be deliberately misconstruing my position because you would rather shut it down then argue the nuance and accept you don't know everything about the world. Am I sexist? By your definition probably yes. Men and women, especially when it comes to relationships are rather different (on average). Now if I believe that, then what is wrong with that? It all seems pretty plausible to me.
  - Nursie 9y ago
    I'm not deliberately misconstruing your comment, but on re-reading I can see what you're trying to say a little better - your wording leaves something to be desired, and I still don't think it's necessary to bring gender into it at all. You seem to think that a massive betrayal of trust would be better for someone you're breaking up with, than telling them that you're leaving them for other reasons, because it gives them something to hate afterwards. I'd say that's arse-backwards, personally.
    - lsd5you 9y ago
      Yes, that is what I am saying (conditionally). I realise this is a contrarian thing to say. Again the level of trust is going to vary between relationships, and what has happened in the relationship and the character of the individuals involved. Marriage obviously has explicit promises, but there is a general social contract. This whole don't mention gender thing is very tedious and borderline thought police. It is simply not that offensive what I am writing. If it doesn't apply to you and yours then good for you. In any case it was grounding it in personal experience.

Nursie 9y ago

You've just said that marriage breakup for women is worse than for men, because it leaves them without something to be mad at! And somehow you think that's not sexist....

lsd5you 9y ago
It 'can be worse' if there is no cheating. My position to the extent that it is sexist is that it may even be worse for them on average. You just seem to be deliberately misconstruing my position because you would rather shut it down then argue the nuance and accept you don't know everything about the world. Am I sexist? By your definition probably yes. Men and women, especially when it comes to relationships are rather different (on average). Now if I believe that, then what is wrong with that? It all seems pretty plausible to me.
- Nursie 9y ago
  I'm not deliberately misconstruing your comment, but on re-reading I can see what you're trying to say a little better - your wording leaves something to be desired, and I still don't think it's necessary to bring gender into it at all. You seem to think that a massive betrayal of trust would be better for someone you're breaking up with, than telling them that you're leaving them for other reasons, because it gives them something to hate afterwards. I'd say that's arse-backwards, personally.
  - lsd5you 9y ago
    Yes, that is what I am saying (conditionally). I realise this is a contrarian thing to say. Again the level of trust is going to vary between relationships, and what has happened in the relationship and the character of the individuals involved. Marriage obviously has explicit promises, but there is a general social contract. This whole don't mention gender thing is very tedious and borderline thought police. It is simply not that offensive what I am writing. If it doesn't apply to you and yours then good for you. In any case it was grounding it in personal experience.