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in general your going to have it a lot easier purely based on your looks Which is why it is better to just bite the bullet and spend those 6-12 months in the g

in general your going to have it a lot easier purely based on your looks Which is why it is better to just bite the bullet and spend those 6-12 months in the gym instead of trying to fight how people think. Done.

icantdrive55 9y ago
Yea--I knew a guy who couldn't get a date, or even a second look in high school/college. He worked out like crazy. He did eventually get dates. Women magically thought he was interesting. It can backfire too. I've seen guys spend their lives in gyms, and they get the name, "Dumb Bell Boys" pretty quick. There's a happy medium of working out the brain above your shoulders, and the bottom half. And I'm not talking about turning into Sheldon--bragging about hiding out in school, but a little insight, and true compassion goes a long way with the right person. True morality/ethics are noticed by the right people. I have a sister who was voted Prettiest in School. She had classically attractive features. Up until around 35, stuff was just given to her. At the same time, she never worked on her greedy/narcistic personality. She's now 51, and beyond miserable. The money stopped flowing in. The men look right past her. She screwed over every family member over the years, so her phone calls go unreturned. She was so aweful, I don't feel sorry for her. About a year ago, I heard she was marrying a foreigner without a prenup. I took one look at the younger man, and knew what he was up to. It's all kinda sad, but she really screwed me over, along with her mother, and other brother. Plus--her younger self-image is so imbedded, she actually believes this Gigalo loves her. What I still find confusing is a middle aged goofy looking Rich man can find true love. A Rich women does not have the same options. The money, nice cars, houses seem to hinder finding a true mate. The average guy is still ogling the maid. Actually, it's not a weird equation. A young woman wants a gentically good looking man. (Can't forget get millions of years of evolution.) A middle aged women wants the nicest cave. All men just want a sweet, caring person, but must look good too. I find it all tedious. If I had a child, I would tell him to get a vasectomy, and learn how the stock market works pretty earily. If love comes--great! Hell, if I had a complete do over--I just might take testosterone antagonist drugs in my 20 to 40's. (I don't even know if they have these drugs, or if they are safe. I just know I spent too many years confusing desire, with love, and wasted so much time.)

icantdrive55 9y ago

Yea--I knew a guy who couldn't get a date, or even a second look in high school/college. He worked out like crazy. He did eventually get dates. Women magically thought he was interesting. It can backfire too. I've seen guys spend their lives in gyms, and they get the name, "Dumb Bell Boys" pretty quick. There's a happy medium of working out the brain above your shoulders, and the bottom half. And I'm not talking about turning into Sheldon--bragging about hiding out in school, but a little insight, and true compassion goes a long way with the right person. True morality/ethics are noticed by the right people. I have a sister who was voted Prettiest in School. She had classically attractive features. Up until around 35, stuff was just given to her. At the same time, she never worked on her greedy/narcistic personality. She's now 51, and beyond miserable. The money stopped flowing in. The men look right past her. She screwed over every family member over the years, so her phone calls go unreturned. She was so aweful, I don't feel sorry for her. About a year ago, I heard she was marrying a foreigner without a prenup. I took one look at the younger man, and knew what he was up to. It's all kinda sad, but she really screwed me over, along with her mother, and other brother. Plus--her younger self-image is so imbedded, she actually believes this Gigalo loves her. What I still find confusing is a middle aged goofy looking Rich man can find true love. A Rich women does not have the same options. The money, nice cars, houses seem to hinder finding a true mate. The average guy is still ogling the maid. Actually, it's not a weird equation. A young woman wants a gentically good looking man. (Can't forget get millions of years of evolution.) A middle aged women wants the nicest cave. All men just want a sweet, caring person, but must look good too. I find it all tedious. If I had a child, I would tell him to get a vasectomy, and learn how the stock market works pretty earily. If love comes--great! Hell, if I had a complete do over--I just might take testosterone antagonist drugs in my 20 to 40's. (I don't even know if they have these drugs, or if they are safe. I just know I spent too many years confusing desire, with love, and wasted so much time.)