Surely we can acknowledge that control is not binary? There was no control that said "don't turn this on by default" or a control that lets me set the specific

Surely we can acknowledge that control is not binary? There was no control that said "don't turn this on by default" or a control that lets me set the specific parameters of cookie sharing. The essence of neutrality concerns is the absence of control. Whether an ISP allows you to turn off the on-by-default traffic shaping or whether a device lets you turn off the on-by-default cookie restrictions is not the concern. It's whether these go-betweens make decisions for us, such as cookie sharing parameters, video downsampling, etc.