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Put yourself though a socializing boot camp. Go out and force yourself into awkward and uncomfortable social situations. Put a couple hours a day into practicin

Put yourself though a socializing boot camp. Go out and force yourself into awkward and uncomfortable social situations. Put a couple hours a day into practicing conversation skills. Try to get strangers to be genuinely interested in you. While you are doing this, be aware of the type of self-talk that you engage in and be sure to keep yourself pumped up with positive feelings. Smile and assure yourself of your desirability and confidence. Practice, practice, practice, and don't make any excuses.

dot 16y ago
Where are these bootcamps?
- tonyarkles 16y ago
  It's a regimen that you need to apply yourself. It's good to keep in mind that, so long as you don't do anything totally outrageous, there is really no possibility of physical harm by going out and trying to socialize. You might get a bit of a bruised ego, but it's all part of learning.
pdebruic 16y ago
I agree with this except for the part where you recommend pumping yourself up with positive feelings. I think if you're pumping yourself up you might be out of your league for the time being. To the OP: The answer to your questions: 1. Yes. 2. Structured Practice 3. Don Juan Boot Camp (see below) 4. Don't settle for the life you have, strive for the life you want. I recommend that you think of it as trying to learn to ride a bike. First its big wheels, then tricycles, then a bike with training wheels, then no training wheels, then a bike with gears and handbrakes, then a bike with aero bars or suspension, then some singletrack races, then some downhill races, then ... You're going get sore muscles, wreck and skin your knees, and maybe bump you're elbows a few times but you don't want to ride on roads until you can handle everything on the bike like its second nature. Once you've got basic roads down you can move to busy roads, then city biking... The Don Juan Boot Camp is a structured set of exercises that is designed to take a person from being a shut-in to a pick up artist in 8 weeks. Even if you don't want to become a pick up artist, I do think there is a lot of value in the first four weeks exercises which are basically designed to get a person out of their shell gracefully and safely while learning to talk with and interact with strangers. I'm not sure that it can make a person a pick up artist or if that's a thing to strive for but it does help meet girls and interact with strangers only because you go from talking to them 0 times per month to multiple times per day. An easy way to start is start asking at least one clerk at every store you go in normally how their day is going and then ask a follow up question. Each time you visit. Be polite. Smile. They mostly have to be nice and polite to you and you should expect it to be safe, emotionally speaking. Then start DJBC http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf and stop when you're interacting like you'd like.

dot 16y ago

Where are these bootcamps?

tonyarkles 16y ago
It's a regimen that you need to apply yourself. It's good to keep in mind that, so long as you don't do anything totally outrageous, there is really no possibility of physical harm by going out and trying to socialize. You might get a bit of a bruised ego, but it's all part of learning.

pdebruic 16y ago

I agree with this except for the part where you recommend pumping yourself up with positive feelings. I think if you're pumping yourself up you might be out of your league for the time being. To the OP: The answer to your questions: 1. Yes. 2. Structured Practice 3. Don Juan Boot Camp (see below) 4. Don't settle for the life you have, strive for the life you want. I recommend that you think of it as trying to learn to ride a bike. First its big wheels, then tricycles, then a bike with training wheels, then no training wheels, then a bike with gears and handbrakes, then a bike with aero bars or suspension, then some singletrack races, then some downhill races, then ... You're going get sore muscles, wreck and skin your knees, and maybe bump you're elbows a few times but you don't want to ride on roads until you can handle everything on the bike like its second nature. Once you've got basic roads down you can move to busy roads, then city biking... The Don Juan Boot Camp is a structured set of exercises that is designed to take a person from being a shut-in to a pick up artist in 8 weeks. Even if you don't want to become a pick up artist, I do think there is a lot of value in the first four weeks exercises which are basically designed to get a person out of their shell gracefully and safely while learning to talk with and interact with strangers. I'm not sure that it can make a person a pick up artist or if that's a thing to strive for but it does help meet girls and interact with strangers only because you go from talking to them 0 times per month to multiple times per day. An easy way to start is start asking at least one clerk at every store you go in normally how their day is going and then ask a follow up question. Each time you visit. Be polite. Smile. They mostly have to be nice and polite to you and you should expect it to be safe, emotionally speaking. Then start DJBC http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf and stop when you're interacting like you'd like.