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Yes, you are correct, it wasn't the question. It was the response to not getting what you wanted that made the original question tone-shift into a demand. >>

• j_s 9y ago
  If you have time, would you mind sharing what you would consider to be a non-demanding example of how I could thank you for following up, explain that I was doing exactly what you asked (re: salt), and promise that going forward I would be on the lookout for examples of my own -- all without any risk of confusion on my part being interpreted as a "tone-shift into a demand"? I am surprised to discover the hard way how the intricacies of tone could cause anyone to document "for the record" an implication that I wrote something that I didn't write (re: demand), and then claim that I have written "arrogant and self-righteous" statements demonstrating my incorrectly supposed possession of two oddly specific non-existent rights (re: 1. others' use of time, and 2. debate) when I wrote no such thing. I truly appreciate the potential value of this opportunity to learn from your feedback; please don't interpret this new request as a demand! (You are of course as always welcome to just say no [thanks?] or to not respond, among many other options.) Perhaps my takeaway should be to add a disclaimer similar to the one immediately preceding this sentence to future questions; my mistake may be rooted in taking for granted what I believed to be understood by all as core to the function of this particular means of communication. PS. FWIW, I have upvoted all of your replies as is my habit in very small part to thank you for your time.