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Since we are going "for the record" (on a site where comments can't be deleted after an hour and a particular user record's karma column value is doubtless a pa

by j_s 9y ago

Since we are going "for the record" (on a site where comments can't be deleted after an hour and a particular user record's karma column value is doubtless a part of consideration for ~$70,000 or whatever it is now) ... > Can you please provide an example of this type of search? My "arrogant and self-righteous" "demand that someone use their time to prove something that is only of interest to" me >> demand that someone debate you Not found. Apologies for any failures of communication or reading comprehension on my part? Peace!

fao_ 9y ago
Yes, you are correct, it wasn't the question. It was the response to not getting what you wanted that made the original question tone-shift into a demand. >> demand that someone debate you > Not found. Sure. I left that in for prosperity.
- j_s 9y ago
  If you have time, would you mind sharing what you would consider to be a non-demanding example of how I could thank you for following up, explain that I was doing exactly what you asked (re: salt), and promise that going forward I would be on the lookout for examples of my own -- all without any risk of confusion on my part being interpreted as a "tone-shift into a demand"? I am surprised to discover the hard way how the intricacies of tone could cause anyone to document "for the record" an implication that I wrote something that I didn't write (re: demand), and then claim that I have written "arrogant and self-righteous" statements demonstrating my incorrectly supposed possession of two oddly specific non-existent rights (re: 1. others' use of time, and 2. debate) when I wrote no such thing. I truly appreciate the potential value of this opportunity to learn from your feedback; please don't interpret this new request as a demand! (You are of course as always welcome to just say no [thanks?] or to not respond, among many other options.) Perhaps my takeaway should be to add a disclaimer similar to the one immediately preceding this sentence to future questions; my mistake may be rooted in taking for granted what I believed to be understood by all as core to the function of this particular means of communication. PS. FWIW, I have upvoted all of your replies as is my habit in very small part to thank you for your time.

by j_s 9y ago

fao_ 9y ago

Yes, you are correct, it wasn't the question. It was the response to not getting what you wanted that made the original question tone-shift into a demand. >> demand that someone debate you > Not found. Sure. I left that in for prosperity.

j_s 9y ago
If you have time, would you mind sharing what you would consider to be a non-demanding example of how I could thank you for following up, explain that I was doing exactly what you asked (re: salt), and promise that going forward I would be on the lookout for examples of my own -- all without any risk of confusion on my part being interpreted as a "tone-shift into a demand"? I am surprised to discover the hard way how the intricacies of tone could cause anyone to document "for the record" an implication that I wrote something that I didn't write (re: demand), and then claim that I have written "arrogant and self-righteous" statements demonstrating my incorrectly supposed possession of two oddly specific non-existent rights (re: 1. others' use of time, and 2. debate) when I wrote no such thing. I truly appreciate the potential value of this opportunity to learn from your feedback; please don't interpret this new request as a demand! (You are of course as always welcome to just say no [thanks?] or to not respond, among many other options.) Perhaps my takeaway should be to add a disclaimer similar to the one immediately preceding this sentence to future questions; my mistake may be rooted in taking for granted what I believed to be understood by all as core to the function of this particular means of communication. PS. FWIW, I have upvoted all of your replies as is my habit in very small part to thank you for your time.