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"smart" and "has good fashion sense" pull in different directions. one requires caring about interesting stuff, the other about pleasing people and fitting in.

• mixmax 19y ago
  Marissa Mayer? Carly Fiorina? (if you're over 45..)
• ardit33 19y ago
  ok, maybe should I have clarified: most people (women too), in SF just dress like they just rolled out of bed. (exception, those that work for financial companies downtown SF). It is part of the culture around here. Comfortable but not visually appealing. And yes, you can be smart and dress cute at the same time. But at the end it boil down to numbers. I was browsing around linked in the profile of some of the area companies, (now linked in has basic stats for all companies), and everwyere the ratio was ranging from 70% male, 30% female, to 80%/20% male female ratio. So, if you are girl in the valley, you don't have to do much to get attention. In NYC, it is the oposite, lot's of girls in the city, hence more competition, so they have to try harder to get attention. That's why you have Sex and the City, Lipstick Jungle, 30 Rock, shows, all revolving around 30+ yo females that can't find a man good enough for them. So, that party just looked like the average tech party around here. (the worst are the digg parties).
• edu 19y ago
  The fact that you don't find it interesting does not mean it isn't nor that smart could like it. I don't know if I'm as smart as you, but I think that fashion is quite interesting. I don't follow it at all, (I don't like to spend money on clothes that will be outdated in 3 months), but I like to see what the trends on the street are, questioning them and if I like some idea taking it. Fashion is a very dynamic, always changing, and quite unpredictable concept. What do you demand on something to be interesting?
  • xlnt 19y ago
    studying fashion is reasonably interesting but that's different than having fashion sense, which means taking the time to look pretty so shallow guys will like you.
    • mixmax 19y ago
      Not only shallow guys. I like to think of myself s not being shallow, and I have to admit that I, often subconsciously, judge people by how they look. And I think everybody else does as too. If your goal is to interact with other people and get something out of it (everything from investor meetings to dating) you need to think about your looks to some degree. I'm not saying you should wear Armani suits, just that you need to fit in. Think of it as hacking - just with people instead. How do you tweak the system to get the most out of it.
      • xlnt 19y ago
        I agree that there's a wide range of it, from very shallow to slightly imperfect. But what happens if you wear something that isn't pretty and people start noticing? Some won't like you. Others will notice their reaction and compensate for it. They will think you didn't do anything wrong, and they shouldn't react badly, and make sure to treat you normally. If you don't wear clothes to fit in and be pretty, you only come off (a bit) worse with the people who aren't self-aware enough. In business, it's important to be able to get along with flawed people; they can still be valuable business partners. But in dating, if you are very smart, you don't want those people who aren't self-aware enough; you only want to go out with exceptional people.