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A friend of mine is father of 7. When they had their fifth kid, children protection started to show their faces on a regular base. Because, you know, having th
by Xoros 9y ago
A friend of mine is father of 7. When they had their fifth kid, children protection started to show their faces on a regular base.
Because, you know, having that much children, you are probably a bad parent.
Of course, it's not a bad thing that they ensure that there is, in fact, no obvious problem home. It's important to watch for the children, they are the future of your country.
But in his case, a wealthy entrepreneur, his wife is a nurse, with the biggest house I've ever been in, and one of the happiest family I know, they still visits every couple of months, seamingly looking for a reason to piss them off.
It looks like (and it's just my opinion) they can't accept different form of life standards.
- extra88 9y agoI'm skeptical that this is the whole story, CPS departments don't have the staff to monitor every Duggar-wannabe. But if there was an incident that put you on their radar (even if it was actually nothing), I could see it taking a long time for them to take you off their list.
- Xoros 9y agoWell I don't really know. Maybe 5 kids is a trigger here in France. But on a semi related subject, my wife and I decided to not put our kids in school this year and do home schooling. To be well prepared, we asked people already doing it, joined Facebook groups of homeschooling parents nearby, etc... The most frequent advice we had is to watch out when government will send someone to check out if everything is ok, as it's badly accepted in France to do homeschool. And they're known to try to corner you to get the kids back to school. And a lot of parents think you're doing bad for your kids making this choice, so may be there is jealousy/angry involved. But again, it's in France not Canada or US so it might be different.
- extra88 9y agoIt would have been helpful to mention you were describing a situation in France, it makes a big difference which country you're in and most people here don't have experience there. I have heard that homeschooling is not as accepted in France as it is in the U.S., it seems like there quite a few individual liberties Americans assume that are not protected in France.
- Xoros 9y agoYes, sorry about that, I realized it when reading your answer, that's why I answered, to add context. France is hiding behind terrorism to prevent parents to do homeschooling, arguing it will help radicalization. Of course it's completely irrelevant, but governments hate to lose control on people.
- extra88 9y agoI don't think homeschooling is "completely irrelevant" to radicalization. There are American homeschoolers who are pretty radical in their beliefs and take their children out of school to prevent them being exposed to other beliefs. I would agree that with Islamic radicalization (probably the only kind of radicalization being considered) in Europe, education at home by parents is not a significant source of radicalized youths.
- Xoros 9y agoYes, I read something about that subject in a recent HN post, with the religious opinions for homeschooling. But in France, that's really irrelevant. All the recent terror attacks have been perpetrated by persons with a public school education. So short sighted politicians could also claim that it's the fault of the public schooling system ! And that also be irrelevant.