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Armchair hypothesis: these careers are highly correlated to extro- and introversion. Introverts are content in their relationships and/or less frequently get th
by technotarek 9y ago
Armchair hypothesis: these careers are highly correlated to extro- and introversion. Introverts are content in their relationships and/or less frequently get themselves into situations that lead to divorce. Call it the nerd coefficient.
- treehau5 9y agoArmchair conclusion: false. Introverts are more likely to use online dating sites and engage down other avenues that would not be natural, but rather virtual. I don't know many of my jock friends growing up that had a "girlfriend" in an MMO, as an example.
- wnevets 9y agoArmchair conclusion: false. As an introvert even online interaction with people can be exhausting.
- saint_fiasco 9y agoVirtual socialization is more of a shy extrovert thing. An introvert will get exhausted after a lot of socialization, virtual or physical.
- Bartweiss 9y agoOnline dating sounds incredibly high socialization to me. You scan through dozens of people in quick succession and interact with many of them. Talking to a single stranger in real life is way less demanding than that. You're right to distinguish shyness from extroversion; as someone who became less shy without becoming any less introverted, it's not a clear association.
- Chaebixi 9y agoThose things are not at all alike. Bartending means accidental social interaction; using an online dating site is deliberate. If you're in a relationship and using an online dating site, the relationship is probably already deeply on the rocks. If you're a bartender, you're more likely to accidentally meet someone you click with without even trying, which might imperil a relationship that's doing pretty well.
- FilterSweep 9y agoA bartender is effectively at the helm of a revolving door of relationship opportunities. There are very few jobs where simply "doing your job" gives you this opportunity.
- DaiPlusPlus 9y agoDo bartenders, as an occupational demographic, suffer higher rates of alcoholism or alcohol abuse? - or lower rates owing to them seeing first-hand what alcoholism looks like? Does this include people who do bartending as a short-term job or gig (like students, the under-employed, people transitioning between careers)?
- emodendroket 9y agoThey have much higher rates of alcoholism.
- LesZedCB 9y agoI have noticed a higher presence of tech people in the polyamory community. The two previous poly relationships I was in ended in friendship and a clean part. Just my two cents of experience.
- seaknoll 9y agoIsn't "ended" the most relevant part of that, wrt this study?
- alexashka 9y agoI'd venture a different hypothesis: smarter people are more picky and peculiar, so when they find someone they like, they really like them and stick with them. Also, if you're willing to suffer through difficult higher education, imagine the pains you'll endure in relationships to make that work also :)
- npsimons 9y ago> Also, if you're willing to suffer through difficult higher education, imagine the pains you'll endure in relationships to make that work also :) This reminds me of a quote from Paul Grahams' "How to do What you Love" (http://www.paulgraham.com/love.html http://www.paulgraham.com/love.html): "If you think something's supposed to hurt, you're less likely to notice if you're doing it wrong. That about sums up my experience of graduate school."