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Well that sucks, my teenage years and twenties have been fairly miserable, I thought it was supposed to be that way only to get better as you mature, get to kno

by GuiA 9y ago

Well that sucks, my teenage years and twenties have been fairly miserable, I thought it was supposed to be that way only to get better as you mature, get to know yourself, and obtain some life experience and perspective as you get into your 30s (currently in late 20s). Guess I'll have to wait another 30 years or so to not feel miserable every night.

coldtea 9y ago
>Guess I'll have to wait another 30 years or so to not feel miserable every night. Or you know, take some other steps to change things around you and for you (including seeking some help if its a clinical issue). Those are averages. Happiness and/or being miserable are not absolute functions of time, and they also don't have to be even relative functions of time.
bittercynic 9y ago
FWIW, my teens and early twenties were miserable, too, and from the end of my twenties until now (mid-late thirties) things have been getting better and better. I hope the same happens for you!
j9461701 9y ago
I know it sounds trite, but if you haven't I really recommend taking up some kind of exercise. It's frankly amazing how fast my general attitude turned around when I started swimming a few hours a week. The malaise I'd been living in since I was a teenager evaporated in a few days, and I was like a completely new person. Every so often I'll get a little lazy and not go for a bit, and the stupefying brain fog of depression always serves as a pointed reminder.
- tom_wilde 9y ago
  +1 !
FooHentai 9y ago
>I thought it was supposed to be that way only to get better as you mature, get to know yourself, and obtain some life experience and perspective as you get into your 30s (currently in late 20s). Relax, you are not an aggregate curve. My life experience so far has been exactly as you imagined (currently mid thirties).
paxiostimic 9y ago
It's an interesting paper but several things have to be kept in mind: 1. This is about cross-sectional studies. They mention a longitudinal multi-sample study which came to slightly different conclusions, that peoples' happiness tends to increase in general with age. It's so important to examine this longitudinally, because there's so many things that could be going on, and it's reasonable to hypothesize that there's some kind of cohort effects going on. In could be that people in their 40s-50s are being subject to some unique combination of issues due to societal problems and patterns (e.g., that people who are reaching professional maturity are bumping up against dysfunction that the older generations are unaware of because they benefited from different socioeconomic environments in a way they don't recognize, and the younger generations aren't quite subject to the same dysfunction because they haven't reached it). But it could be teenagers in the home, becoming disillusioned with life and then learning to cope with it, hormones, who knows. 2. Strangely enough, happiness and stress aren't really totally inverses of one another. So it's possible your stress / anxiety / etc. will decrease and your happiness might also a bit. Think of it this way: it's possible to not really feel angry or fearful or depressed, but also not entirely excited or fulfilled either. Related to this are the fact that certain types of problems are definitely more likely in youth, especially those related to drugs, impulsive behavior, etc. The decline in those types of problems is much better documented and understood than these life satisfaction patterns (I actually think that a huge part of world conflicts can be accounted for by 15-25 year old males). 3. These are average curves; everyone's lives are different. I can't emphasize this enough, speaking as a researcher in this area, roughly speaking.

by GuiA 9y ago

coldtea 9y ago

>Guess I'll have to wait another 30 years or so to not feel miserable every night. Or you know, take some other steps to change things around you and for you (including seeking some help if its a clinical issue). Those are averages. Happiness and/or being miserable are not absolute functions of time, and they also don't have to be even relative functions of time.

bittercynic 9y ago

FWIW, my teens and early twenties were miserable, too, and from the end of my twenties until now (mid-late thirties) things have been getting better and better. I hope the same happens for you!

j9461701 9y ago

I know it sounds trite, but if you haven't I really recommend taking up some kind of exercise. It's frankly amazing how fast my general attitude turned around when I started swimming a few hours a week. The malaise I'd been living in since I was a teenager evaporated in a few days, and I was like a completely new person. Every so often I'll get a little lazy and not go for a bit, and the stupefying brain fog of depression always serves as a pointed reminder.

tom_wilde 9y ago
+1 !

FooHentai 9y ago

>I thought it was supposed to be that way only to get better as you mature, get to know yourself, and obtain some life experience and perspective as you get into your 30s (currently in late 20s). Relax, you are not an aggregate curve. My life experience so far has been exactly as you imagined (currently mid thirties).

paxiostimic 9y ago

It's an interesting paper but several things have to be kept in mind: 1. This is about cross-sectional studies. They mention a longitudinal multi-sample study which came to slightly different conclusions, that peoples' happiness tends to increase in general with age. It's so important to examine this longitudinally, because there's so many things that could be going on, and it's reasonable to hypothesize that there's some kind of cohort effects going on. In could be that people in their 40s-50s are being subject to some unique combination of issues due to societal problems and patterns (e.g., that people who are reaching professional maturity are bumping up against dysfunction that the older generations are unaware of because they benefited from different socioeconomic environments in a way they don't recognize, and the younger generations aren't quite subject to the same dysfunction because they haven't reached it). But it could be teenagers in the home, becoming disillusioned with life and then learning to cope with it, hormones, who knows. 2. Strangely enough, happiness and stress aren't really totally inverses of one another. So it's possible your stress / anxiety / etc. will decrease and your happiness might also a bit. Think of it this way: it's possible to not really feel angry or fearful or depressed, but also not entirely excited or fulfilled either. Related to this are the fact that certain types of problems are definitely more likely in youth, especially those related to drugs, impulsive behavior, etc. The decline in those types of problems is much better documented and understood than these life satisfaction patterns (I actually think that a huge part of world conflicts can be accounted for by 15-25 year old males). 3. These are average curves; everyone's lives are different. I can't emphasize this enough, speaking as a researcher in this area, roughly speaking.