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It's a fun city; I'd love it if not for the people. It's baffling and honestly distressing; I've made friends before in other places. I don't have political vi

It's a fun city; I'd love it if not for the people. It's baffling and honestly distressing; I've made friends before in other places. I don't have political views anathema to how most people in the area think. I try to be respectful and unobtrusive and kind. I honestly moved here thinking it'd be full of weirdos like me. I dunno, maybe that's the problem. And don't even get me started on dating apps.

mercer 9y ago
This fascinates me so I'd really like to hear more! Do you have any idea what might be the difference in this situation compared to other places? Just off the top of my head one thing that comes to mind is that age might play a role. I've noticed that making new friends in a new place has been more difficult since I entered my thirties. Another could definitely be culture. While I believe almost every city beyond a certain size will have 'pockets' of particular types of people, and thus that it should be possible to make friends anywhere, I've definitely found that in some places my kind of crowd is kind of 'hidden' within the more popular culture(s). This seems to be more an issue in smaller cities, but still.
- leggomylibro 9y ago
  Thanks, but I'll pass on being your specimen. It's fucking depressing, why would you be fascinated and want to know more? NOBODY is fascinated or wants to know more about me, what's your angle?
  - mercer 9y ago
    My angle is that I myself struggle with this too. And I've met quite a few people who struggle with similar issues. And 'loneliness' as a more general topic has been a central 'interest' in my life precisely because I know how terrible the feeling is, and because it's perhaps the worst feeling I've had in my life so far. Anyways, I didn't mean to insult you or treat you like a specimen, so I'm sorry if that's how I came across. I'd honestly love to talk about this more if you're open to it. If so, you can find my email address on my profile. Again, sorry for upsetting you! I hope things improve for you.
    - leggomylibro 9y ago
      Ugh, I'm sorry, it's just frustrating and I got used to venting.
      - mercer 9y ago
        No worries. And I was serious about emailing me if you feel like it. I'd have killed for a stranger that I could vent to occasionally (although I'm sure I'd not have taken them up on the offer, had they done so).

mercer 9y ago

This fascinates me so I'd really like to hear more! Do you have any idea what might be the difference in this situation compared to other places? Just off the top of my head one thing that comes to mind is that age might play a role. I've noticed that making new friends in a new place has been more difficult since I entered my thirties. Another could definitely be culture. While I believe almost every city beyond a certain size will have 'pockets' of particular types of people, and thus that it should be possible to make friends anywhere, I've definitely found that in some places my kind of crowd is kind of 'hidden' within the more popular culture(s). This seems to be more an issue in smaller cities, but still.

leggomylibro 9y ago
Thanks, but I'll pass on being your specimen. It's fucking depressing, why would you be fascinated and want to know more? NOBODY is fascinated or wants to know more about me, what's your angle?
- mercer 9y ago
  My angle is that I myself struggle with this too. And I've met quite a few people who struggle with similar issues. And 'loneliness' as a more general topic has been a central 'interest' in my life precisely because I know how terrible the feeling is, and because it's perhaps the worst feeling I've had in my life so far. Anyways, I didn't mean to insult you or treat you like a specimen, so I'm sorry if that's how I came across. I'd honestly love to talk about this more if you're open to it. If so, you can find my email address on my profile. Again, sorry for upsetting you! I hope things improve for you.
  - leggomylibro 9y ago
    Ugh, I'm sorry, it's just frustrating and I got used to venting.
    - mercer 9y ago
      No worries. And I was serious about emailing me if you feel like it. I'd have killed for a stranger that I could vent to occasionally (although I'm sure I'd not have taken them up on the offer, had they done so).