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Have you tried going to local public social events? Have you tried avoiding mentioning your job and just say you work in IT? I'm not saying these will work, jus

Have you tried going to local public social events? Have you tried avoiding mentioning your job and just say you work in IT? I'm not saying these will work, just brainstorming ideas. If you figure out the public venues where people with similar interests as you hang out, it might be easier to go and meet them without discussing work.

leggomylibro 9y ago
Yes - for years. It would help if I could find anyone who shared my interests, or if people showed up to recurring events for generic interests like board games or hikes more than once or twice. There's a big problem with taking a city and shoving a bunch of milquetoast bland new grads in. People hate them, and eventually grow a filter to just ignore them. You'll never convince them that you're any different; it's a waste of time trying.
- kelnos 9y ago
  > It would help if I could find anyone who shared my interests I think that's the main problem. If you found people who shared your interests, it wouldn't matter what they thought about your job. Assuming there really isn't anyone in your city that shares your interests (or few enough that means finding them is prohibitively difficult), then your only recourse might be to move elsewhere... absent finding new interests, heh.
  - leggomylibro 9y ago
    Yyyyup, I'm coming to the same conclusion. Just gotta wait out some leases, and that'll mean a bit more stock before I split anyways.
- _sdegutis 9y ago
  Sorry to hear that. Have you tried less conventional meeting places like local church events or book clubs at your public library?
  - ansible 9y ago
    To add to the list: Take an art class. It doesn't matter if you can't draw worth a darn. Just try. Or some other class that interests you.
    - leggomylibro 9y ago
      我二年学了中文，可是没有人今天给我叫。 And then the third class was cancelled for lack of sign-ups. I have BEEN trying, constantly, and it doesn't matter at all.
      - jacalata 9y ago
        Have you tried therapy? Because I moved here as a new grad, I know a bunch of others who moved here as new grads to work at Microsoft and Amazon, and almost none of them have ended up entirely shunned by the city. (Exactly one guy I know describes it the way you do, in fact. And I don't hang out with him because he's really prickly and difficult not to offend.)

leggomylibro 9y ago

Yes - for years. It would help if I could find anyone who shared my interests, or if people showed up to recurring events for generic interests like board games or hikes more than once or twice. There's a big problem with taking a city and shoving a bunch of milquetoast bland new grads in. People hate them, and eventually grow a filter to just ignore them. You'll never convince them that you're any different; it's a waste of time trying.

kelnos 9y ago
> It would help if I could find anyone who shared my interests I think that's the main problem. If you found people who shared your interests, it wouldn't matter what they thought about your job. Assuming there really isn't anyone in your city that shares your interests (or few enough that means finding them is prohibitively difficult), then your only recourse might be to move elsewhere... absent finding new interests, heh.
- leggomylibro 9y ago
  Yyyyup, I'm coming to the same conclusion. Just gotta wait out some leases, and that'll mean a bit more stock before I split anyways.
_sdegutis 9y ago
Sorry to hear that. Have you tried less conventional meeting places like local church events or book clubs at your public library?
- ansible 9y ago
  To add to the list: Take an art class. It doesn't matter if you can't draw worth a darn. Just try. Or some other class that interests you.
  - leggomylibro 9y ago
    我二年学了中文，可是没有人今天给我叫。 And then the third class was cancelled for lack of sign-ups. I have BEEN trying, constantly, and it doesn't matter at all.
    - jacalata 9y ago
      Have you tried therapy? Because I moved here as a new grad, I know a bunch of others who moved here as new grads to work at Microsoft and Amazon, and almost none of them have ended up entirely shunned by the city. (Exactly one guy I know describes it the way you do, in fact. And I don't hang out with him because he's really prickly and difficult not to offend.)