That's an amazing observation, and explains (or justifies) why, when I'm organizing social events, I'm reluctant to try to set up rules and such, until there is

That's an amazing observation, and explains (or justifies) why, when I'm organizing social events, I'm reluctant to try to set up rules and such, until there is some notable problem that some clear, enforced rule might solve. I'm a big fan of setting up situations and seeing where people want to go and helping to give it form. The trick is to choose some initial basic constraints while not being an impediment to some more interesting spontaneous behavior.