Firstly, I apologize that my post emotionally confused you. If you've since decided whether to laugh or cry, and perhaps have even carried out the action, I'd

Firstly, I apologize that my post emotionally confused you. If you've since decided whether to laugh or cry, and perhaps have even carried out the action, I'd love to be updated. When I said "it is art" I was not referring to "relationships". In retrospect, I suppose I was referring to life in general. At any rate, I most certainly made it clear that I don't feel "game" is not meant to be followed as a construct of rules. And, even if it were, there's plenty of room for personality, style, and identity. So we agree, relationships are not a game. However, you might find that listening to advice about how to deal with people could make meeting people and having them like you be a much easier process. Is taking advice allowed in your model of "true" relationships, or would you say something snappy like... If you want to take advice all day, watch Dr. Phil! I included evolutionary psychology only as a means to explain overall dating behavior and motivation which the op had asked about. I don't think I implied whipping out some sort of book about personal evo-psych to target a single person. Finally, what makes you think that "game" (as your narrow mind thinks it knows) forbids deep emotional connections and "truth"? If you want to make assumptions all day, then you should head over to intern-- oh... nevermind.