Ugh, I hate to become an apologist for "the game", but I feel compelled. Whether you or anyone else want to admit it, girls (and guys) have a strong tendency t

Ugh, I hate to become an apologist for "the game", but I feel compelled. Whether you or anyone else want to admit it, girls (and guys) have a strong tendency to follow certain behavioral patterns as a result of both biological AND societal factors. And so relationships ARE about art. They require practice, experience, analysis, etc. Some people gain this naturally (or get practice at an early age). The result is that they can breeze through interactions with the opposite sex with relative ease. To observers, their love lives may seem beautiful, natural, and effortless. But others don't have it naturally, and for whatever reason don't get practice at an early age. They spend their lives muddling through social situations that they either don't understand or, worse, have an deeply-held misunderstanding of. A lot of guys don't know that what a girl says and what a girl wants may be two different things, and they often suffer heartbreak because of it. It is the height of arrogance to assume that these people have no business trying to figure out what they're doing wrong and improve.