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A couple of quick points, 1) Illusion of true love; most people are against PUA because boiling courtship/romance into a state-machine automata is abhoring to
by noname123 16y ago
A couple of quick points,
1) Illusion of true love; most people are against PUA because boiling courtship/romance into a state-machine automata is abhoring to their idea of true love. When in fact, I'd argue - it's the other way around, most men want to have sex or emotional intimacy with hot women and it's only later one rationalizes to oneself after that one is dating or marrying for "true" love. In fact, being "nice" to the girl is disingenuous (not to mention that it doesn't work) because you are not being truly "nice" to her but being nice in hopes that you can have sex or be emotionally intimate with her. In that situation, you are not being true either to her or to yourself.
2) Illusion of PUA being superficial; a lot of people decry that doing PUA is selling your soul down the river, like an American man who is desperate, taking the easy way out by ordering mail-order bride from Russia. But PUA, I'd argue is not about taking the easy way out but confronting and taking control of one's reality. Human biology dictates that in order to be happy, you need to both get laid physically and share emotional intimacy with a significant other. PUA is about achieving that means, with the minimal sacrifice on your time/resources (you don't have to be rich or learn how to shred on the guitar, etc). Nothing is sadder than a man who spent his whole life "nest-building" and "peacocking" in hopes for the right woman to come along in his life, only to give up his personal goals and vision in return. So in a sense, doing PUA is being true to yourself. Falling in love/getting laid is important to me but it is not the only thing in my life.
Of course, this is very subjective; but just wanted to express my perspective (which I don't think is the mainstream view) on this matter, to at least to get people to reconsider their belief about courtship/dating, if not change their minds completely.