It's amazing how much your demeanor matters. You can't just go through the motions when it comes to socializing--if your heart isn't in it, it comes through in

It's amazing how much your demeanor matters. You can't just go through the motions when it comes to socializing--if your heart isn't in it, it comes through in every single microgesture, and people see through your perfunctory patterns instantly. They won't even know they're doing it; they just won't respond positively to you, and it'll be a lost cause.