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I must be doing something wrong. I moved to the Bay Area from Brooklyn and my success rate skyrocketed.
by YuriNiyazov 16y ago
I must be doing something wrong. I moved to the Bay Area from Brooklyn and my success rate skyrocketed.
- ovi256 16y agoChanges of environment (like moving) are known to trigger changes in behaviour that were latent. It may well have been this change in behaviour (acting more confident, more mature maybe?) not the change of locale. When I say latent, it means that you felt more confident for a while before the move already, but it took the move, which brought anonymity, for you to externalize it. This is why tourists act crazy, and even introverted shy people can act exuberantly on holiday. Or like your case, after a move.
- kadavy 16y agoThere are far fewer dateable women in The Bay Area than Brooklyn.
- YuriNiyazov 16y agoDepends. If "dateable" is a reflexive relation (meaning that for a woman to be dateable, it's not just that you are willing to date her, but also that she is willing to date you), then maybe not. In the Bay Area, if you are a software engineer that can put together a few interesting words about something other than computers, you are an attractive anomaly. In Brooklyn, you are still a software engineer.