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Not splitting the community because the guy is an asshole is still splitting the community between "people who will put up with the asshole" and "people who lea
by jowiar 9y ago
Not splitting the community because the guy is an asshole is still splitting the community between "people who will put up with the asshole" and "people who leave the community because of the asshole". This gives the people who left a place to go. And possibly ends up creating a bigger community where being an asshole isn't tolerated.
Or maybe not. But it's hard to know without trying.
- jessaustin 9y agoLinking in a non-triggering way to a mostly-thoughtful article by a professor of psychology about the challenges faced by those with autism and other neural diversities is not "being an asshole". If that's "asshole" to you, I'd like to trade entire families and sets of acquaintances and business associates with you...
- mdekkers 9y agoLinking in a non-triggering way Is this a thing? How can I avoid linking in a triggering way? What does it mean?
- jessaustin 9y agoI'm not sure I completely understand it myself. I just know there are more and less courteous ways to discuss particular topics. When the topic of discussion is "harassment", one wouldn't refer to it in such a way that a reader or listener would be reminded of particular situations of harassment that they have experienced themselves. The link in question was about the experience of the neurodiverse with the speech police rather than about harassment per se, but it's possible that some readers might have leaped to that topic, had the tweet been something like, "Let's end speech codes so harassing harassers can harass harassment victims without getting hassled by the man!" Whoops I probably just triggered someone...
- coldtea 9y agoObviously by not accompanying the link with an offensive comment. Links are not just the a href="xxx" part.
- pluma 9y agoI think it's in the new HTML spec: rel="notriggering"
- coldtea 9y ago>Not splitting the community because the guy is an asshole is still splitting the community between "people who will put up with the asshole" and "people who leave the community because of the asshole". Note how all the BS they mentioned show absolutely no proof that the guy is an asshole. I'd go as far as to say that the people that did the split and power grub move are the real asshole and they should be ashamed and driven away from any community.