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From the article: "The general idea is that it's absolutely threatening to admit you’re wrong" From an article by PG in 2009: "More generally, you can have a f
by jeromec 16y ago
From the article: "The general idea is that it's absolutely threatening to admit you’re wrong"
From an article by PG in 2009: "More generally, you can have a fruitful discussion about a topic only if it doesn't engage the identities of any of the participants."
PG article link: http://www.paulgraham.com/identity.html http://www.paulgraham.com/identity.html
- Elite 16y agoWhen I engage in difficult or critical conversations, I try to avoid the word "you" as much as possible. This immediately tends to put people in defensive mode and their response can become combative as they perceive this as an attack on who they are.