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I'm curious if anyone in the anti-marriage camp has children. I've heard the "marriage is an anachronism" argument for many years, exclusively from childless c
by portman 16y ago
I'm curious if anyone in the anti-marriage camp has children.
I've heard the "marriage is an anachronism" argument for many years, exclusively from childless couples.
If that's true - and it may be just due to small sample size of my personal experience - then it implies confirmation bias on both sides of the debate.
Is anyone here in a committed, non-married relationship with kids?
- michael_dorfman 16y agoI'm not-- I'm happily married with four kids-- but here in Norway, committed, non-married relationships with kids are extremely common. In fact, a majority of children in Norway are born outside of wedlock (a fact that nobody views as a problem.) Also worth noting is that co-habiting partners have almost all of the same rights as married partners, so legally, there's not much difference if one marries or not.
- dgabriel 16y agoEx-husband & I have one child. My current partner (also divorced) & I are not married and we have two children.
- grandalf 16y agoI criticize the institution of marriage even though I'm happily married and we're expecting a child. I would still want to have a monogamous, long term relationship with my wife, only every time I think about the institution (and the Mike Huckabees, Pat Robertsons and Barack Obamas of the world claiming that marriage is between a man and a woman) I get an icky feeling like I'm a member of a racist country club or that I inherited a Nazi fortune. The bond between two people is only as valid/strong/durable as the commitment. There is no reason to preserve a tradition that has been co-opted by social conservatives and now symbolizes bigotry more than it serves a practical purpose. Furthermore, all the social meddling (tax rates, special privileges) makes me feel like a pawn.
- cromulent 16y agoI was, until I got married.