This only works if the confrontee assumes the same. Which is often not the case. People usually think others can read their mind, and don't communicate their is

This only works if the confrontee assumes the same. Which is often not the case. People usually think others can read their mind, and don't communicate their issues sufficiently well. The natural response to that lack of information is to make things up to have a coherent mental model. Over time this model tends to diverge from the ground truth, sometimes exponentially. As a result you get conflict, assumed malice, and other kinds of misunderstanding. The frustrating thing about all this is without grounds to unconditionally assume benevolence of the other party (i.e. without being close friends), this is largely unavoidable.