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> ...it’s an unequal burden my male coworkers don’t have to deal with every day. Maybe. There's a lot of diversity within the male gender. I know I'm an outli
by humanrebar 9y ago
> ...it’s an unequal burden my male coworkers don’t have to deal with every day.
Maybe. There's a lot of diversity within the male gender.
I know I'm an outlier at work due to my politics, my religious beliefs, and other details of my background. I sometimes wonder which of my coworkers have something against me. I know all of them don't (or at least they are professional regardless), but people from my background are absolutely in a minority and are publicly ridiculed on a regular basis, including in HN comments.
I don't care to compare my experience to being a woman engineer, but the feeling described isn't foreign to me.
- AlexandrB 9y ago> I know I'm an outlier at work due to my politics, my religious beliefs, and other details of my background. Right. Now imagine being an outlier due to your biology in a way that's impossible to conceal. I'm an outlier in some ways from my peers as well. But I just don't talk about those beliefs or those parts of my life. You don't have the option to do that if you're female or a visible minority.
- dguaraglia 9y agoBeautifully put.
- humanrebar 9y ago> Now imagine being an outlier due to your biology in a way that's impossible to conceal. Who said I was concealing anything?
- abvdasker 9y agoCritical difference that you fail to understand is that you have a choice as to how you are perceived. You have a choice about whether to blend in where a woman or visible minority would not.
- humanrebar 9y agoWho said being closeted is even in the cards for me? Even if it were, aren't we supposed to be moving past the point where people need to closet who they are so as not to offend everyone else?