The original "What I believe" was powerful enough that I use it as an opening quotation for "Dating for Nerds" series (first part here: http://p.migdal.pl/2017/

The original "What I believe" was powerful enough that I use it as an opening quotation for "Dating for Nerds" series (first part here: http://p.migdal.pl/2017/07/23/dating-for-nerds.html http://p.migdal.pl/2017/07/23/dating-for-nerds.html). That is: "How to help all the young male nerds I meet who suffer from [the dating] problem, in a way that passes feminist muster, and that triggers the world’s sympathy rather than outrage[?] I believe that, just as there are shy, nerdy men, there are also shy, nerdy women, who likewise suffer from feeling unwanted, sexually invisible, or ashamed to express their desires." At the same time, from my experience (including my current relationship with a feminist) that nerds and feminist should be allies. What is a problem is misunderstanding of each other problems and (often intentional triggering) both ways. Also, here are some lessons I've learnt at !!con (a conference by Recurse Center aka Hacker School alumni): http://p.migdal.pl/2017/08/14/bangbangcon.html http://p.migdal.pl/2017/08/14/bangbangcon.html tl;dr: you can get great inclusivity primarily by being welcoming, accommodating for needs (in an open-ended way, not restricting it to a few axes) and, crucially, by not shaming or bulling otherwise good-willed transgressors. And as a male nerd I felt better than on less diverse events, not worse.