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Why is it annoying? Who told you that you need to feel bad?
by davidreiss 9y ago
Why is it annoying? Who told you that you need to feel bad?
- tpallarino 9y agoI understand why you're getting downvoted but I think this is a really good point.
- rtpg 9y agoBy having those sorts of thoughts, you are privileging that aspect of them over any other sort of accomplishments they might have. They have less opportunity to present themselves in the way they would like to. Imagine if everyone around you in your workplace would think about how you're dressed instead of what you're actually trying to talk to them about.
- 3131s 9y agoWomen have the same instinctive reaction to attractive men though. I do agree everyone should be aware of how attractiveness can influence their perception of another person, but I don't feel guilty about noticing whether a woman is attractive or not and I definitely am not going to make a futile attempt to prevent it.
- rtpg 9y agoWe live in a society where this issue affects women way more than it does men (see Clinton getting lectured at about not constantly smiling). Bringing this up is part of a fight to reduce systemic bias.
- Boothroid 9y agoI think you are arguing for denial of a fundamental aspect of human nature.
- wox 9y agoI suspect you're missing the point of the parent comment, and the post itself. Regardless of whether these thoughts are wrong or oppressive, is it useful to fight or deny them? Is it helpful to chastise ourselves or feel guilty for having them?
- Lewton 9y ago> Why is it annoying? Because it affects his concentration? He already expressed that in his post " or at least why can't it be nothing at all so it doesn't interrupt my thinking"