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This is basically me in a couple of decades. 8 months ago I moved out to Denver and made an uncomfortable realization - I haven't made friends since high school
by avenoir 9y ago
This is basically me in a couple of decades. 8 months ago I moved out to Denver and made an uncomfortable realization - I haven't made friends since high school and I have no idea how to make friends. I tried Meetup and other random social gatherings without making any meaningful connections and then I just quit making any effort. I've since slipped into not caring and getting comfortable being alone most of the time here. The only social interaction I have is when I visit office once a few months (I work remote) or go back to my hometown. I used to hate it, now I enjoy it but it makes me wonder what will come of it when I'm much older. In the back of my mind I'm thinking I should quit my remote job (which I love) and find something local or move back. Thank God for the great outdoors and coffee shops in the meantime lol
- Pamar 9y agoMay I offer a suggestion? Try enrolling in a martial arts course. You can surely find something that fits your own preferences in terms of "intensity" and it might get you in touch with people.
- starbuxman 9y agoI totally agree with this. I enrolled in martial arts one year after moving to a new city, and they've become a great circle of friends. The camaraderie you build with martial arts folks is a special one.
- Jtsummers 9y agoSimilarly, a sports team or another group engaged in relatively challenging physical activities (such as hiking and backpacking, especially in CO this would be a lot of fun).
- avenoir 9y agoI actually have a buddy who's into Tai Chi and also recommended this to me as a way to meet new people when i first came out here. This completely escaped me since. Thanks for the suggestion!
- gooseus 9y agoI've been feeling the same way since moving to Portland... been here a year and my closest friends here are still the 2 guys that I went to college with who happen to be local. I've also been thinking of taking a martial arts courses, but am also looking at local community groups like Neighborhood Emergency Teams for emergency management.
- ajmurmann 9y agoI moved to Portland a few years ago as well and also don't know too many people here. Let's hang out! My profile should be showing my email.
- Balgair 9y agoHey, put an email to contact you with in your bio page. I'd have emailed you to hang, but there is nothing to contact you by.
- avenoir 9y agoHey, Thanks for the offer! I just updated my bio with email.
- 1337biz 9y agoI do work in a team but don't like to mix work and real friends. I am thinking about working at a coffee place or bar just for fun and social interaction. The money is ridiculous still I think I would enjoy it a lot more. Anyone doing something similar?
- jpster 9y agoWould your job consider paying for a coworking space? I found it helpful for meeting new people in a new town while working remotely.