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To be frank, it's called being the better man. Progress isn't made when both parties refuse to cooperate. And one side isn't absolved of responsibility just be

To be frank, it's called being the better man. Progress isn't made when both parties refuse to cooperate. And one side isn't absolved of responsibility just because they believe the other side to be not worth their effort. This is petty.

KirinDave 9y ago
What do you think I am doing engaging this topic even though it's obviously time consuming and costly to me? I'm not here dropping links about stereotypes and pointing out trivial logical errors in the discourse because it's good for my heart or my psyche. I'm on Twitter hiatus, but I still end up wrapped in these fruitless conflicts. But please, continue arguing that what I'm doing is deleterious. I'm not friendly on this subject, but you can hardly accuse me of not engaging openly and being responsive to the dialogue.
- pharrington 9y ago
  The pain you're experiencing is cognitive dissonance. I am also very personally familiar with it, and I know how hard it is to recognize the cognitive dissonance in oneself. I also know that the pain -starts- going away when you're able to honestly confront yourself and the irrational and contradictory thoughts that are the root of the pain.
  - KirinDave 9y ago
    My irrationality is keeping to a promise to positively oppose the often-unconscious but perniciously misogynistic viewpoint that permeates the discourse of this site. I recognize that giving a promise this vast in scope was a bad idea. However, I feel obligated to keep it. I'm bored to death of men with almost no conception of the topic at hand demanding deference and respect just because they think they know how to program a computer. And yet, here I am keeping my promise. You seem to think my intent is malicious. It's really too bad.
    - pharrington 9y ago
      "You seem to think my intent is malicious." Nope. I think you're acting out of pain. I think you're in pain because you yourself said that your current behavior on the forum is "costly" and bad "for my heart or my psyche." Again, you're reading something that was literally never written. Hence, cognitive dissonance.

KirinDave 9y ago

What do you think I am doing engaging this topic even though it's obviously time consuming and costly to me? I'm not here dropping links about stereotypes and pointing out trivial logical errors in the discourse because it's good for my heart or my psyche. I'm on Twitter hiatus, but I still end up wrapped in these fruitless conflicts. But please, continue arguing that what I'm doing is deleterious. I'm not friendly on this subject, but you can hardly accuse me of not engaging openly and being responsive to the dialogue.

pharrington 9y ago
The pain you're experiencing is cognitive dissonance. I am also very personally familiar with it, and I know how hard it is to recognize the cognitive dissonance in oneself. I also know that the pain -starts- going away when you're able to honestly confront yourself and the irrational and contradictory thoughts that are the root of the pain.
- KirinDave 9y ago
  My irrationality is keeping to a promise to positively oppose the often-unconscious but perniciously misogynistic viewpoint that permeates the discourse of this site. I recognize that giving a promise this vast in scope was a bad idea. However, I feel obligated to keep it. I'm bored to death of men with almost no conception of the topic at hand demanding deference and respect just because they think they know how to program a computer. And yet, here I am keeping my promise. You seem to think my intent is malicious. It's really too bad.
  - pharrington 9y ago
    "You seem to think my intent is malicious." Nope. I think you're acting out of pain. I think you're in pain because you yourself said that your current behavior on the forum is "costly" and bad "for my heart or my psyche." Again, you're reading something that was literally never written. Hence, cognitive dissonance.