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> I don't think women who are not engineers really envy those who spend their time this way Again, you are presuming to know what the majority of women feel. Y
by sudosteph 9y ago
> I don't think women who are not engineers really envy those who spend their time this way
Again, you are presuming to know what the majority of women feel. Your personal preference for "emotionally fulfilling" work is just that, personal preference. As for the study you linked, it's impossible to seperate the influence of gendered socialization and inequal exposure to potential interests from "biological" sources as causes for the differences.
Applying these types of weak generalizations to justify differences which are better explained by sexism is not helping women in any way. Maybe if you had experienced childhood as a a female you would understand how toxic female socialization really can be. Stop telling other women what we prefer to be or care about, and just help make a world where girls are not told they need to be "emotionally fulfilled" to enjoy a job. Because that's the one that still exists and prevents women from exploring technical work.
Many girls worldwide are still groomed for being caretakers responsible for doing emotional labor and household labor for family when they could be exploring their own interests. I know women, in America, who were raised in this manner and it was very hard for them to
to break away from that expectation and work for themselves instead. They wrestled with guilt and their family accused them of selfishness, but they decided rightly that their destiny is theirs and it was wrong for their family to treat them like a servant (notably their brothers were not treated that way). It's easy to conflate the effects of that type of socialization with biological dispositions, but nobody is helped by doing so.
- vings 9y agoI really appreciate your perspective, and agree that I could grow in my empathy for the harmful aspects of female socialisation. It's admittedly hard for me to not view it as butterflies, rainbows and dance classes, but that's just the "grass is greener" effect from my own experience. (I also had no sisters and didn't observe it directly in my own family.) I support everyone liberating themselves in the way that they need to. I can totally agree that all of the studies and data that we have are taken from within the culture itself, and so it's pretty much impossible to see the biology through the culture. I often notice myself that biological explanations are used by dominant groups in order to reduce their responsibility, even if they may not be the most scientifically accurate ways of looking at things.