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Women marrying up is historically the biggest driver of equality in Western societies (poor people becoming richer). Economist have identified it as a problem

Women marrying up is historically the biggest driver of equality in Western societies (poor people becoming richer). Economist have identified it as a problem because as women get richer and they don't want to marry down, that mechanism for "equality" is increasingly lost. So there have been studies about this phenomenon (women not wanting to marry down), but I am too lazy to Google for them. Also, financial troubles of the husband are the strongest indicator for impeding divorce. And breakups are usually initiated by women. Every time this comes up I wonder if I should launch a dating site for rich women seeking a "houseman" for a partner. But somehow I am still not convinced yet that there is really such a huge market.

mcv 9y ago
Yeah, but that's part of the old patriarchal system where men make money and women stay at home. In this age of double incomes, it should be irrelevant. Still, some people cling to the old patriarchy.
- dsfjksdf 9y ago
  It's not just that, it is that women have the greater bargaining chip in the relationship. They have the womb for creating babies, so they can make more demands. Also, they make the greater investment into kids (at first, at least, over time it can change), which also warrants "compensation".
  - mcv 9y ago
    I'm not sure what they're supposed to be bargaining about in your view. Have you ever been in a long term relationship? Because what you're describing does not sound like a healthy relationship.
    - dsfjksdf 9y ago
      Do you have kids? Who got to stay home with the kids? Who got to work only part time when the kids grew older? Who pays the rent? That sort of thing. And, as always: on average... If you don't see it, I don't think I can convince you. There is much to learn about how the world turns.
      - mcv 9y ago
        I have kids, yes. We take care of them together. We both work 4 days a week. She pays the mortgage, I pay childcare. In a healthy relationship, this is stuff you work out together, not through demands and womb-based bargaining chips.
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mcv 9y ago

Yeah, but that's part of the old patriarchal system where men make money and women stay at home. In this age of double incomes, it should be irrelevant. Still, some people cling to the old patriarchy.

dsfjksdf 9y ago
It's not just that, it is that women have the greater bargaining chip in the relationship. They have the womb for creating babies, so they can make more demands. Also, they make the greater investment into kids (at first, at least, over time it can change), which also warrants "compensation".
- mcv 9y ago
  I'm not sure what they're supposed to be bargaining about in your view. Have you ever been in a long term relationship? Because what you're describing does not sound like a healthy relationship.
  - dsfjksdf 9y ago
    Do you have kids? Who got to stay home with the kids? Who got to work only part time when the kids grew older? Who pays the rent? That sort of thing. And, as always: on average... If you don't see it, I don't think I can convince you. There is much to learn about how the world turns.
    - mcv 9y ago
      I have kids, yes. We take care of them together. We both work 4 days a week. She pays the mortgage, I pay childcare. In a healthy relationship, this is stuff you work out together, not through demands and womb-based bargaining chips.
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