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I'm planning to identify a suitable candidate to get married to, and who is genetically appropriate enough to give me good quality kids, then convince this pers

by jeb 16y ago

I'm planning to identify a suitable candidate to get married to, and who is genetically appropriate enough to give me good quality kids, then convince this person to marry me and carry my child, within the next year. Difficult, but I assume interesting.

MrMatt 16y ago
You going to be split-testing?
- swombat 16y ago
  He'll definitely be using genetic algorithms.
  - jholman 16y ago
    Before he tries that, he may have to divide and conquer.
FraaJad 16y ago
Step 0: Get adopted by Indian parents. Step 1: sit back and relax ;)
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- mrtron 16y ago
  I was shocked to discover how often that occurs with families, even in the north america. A friend of mine is having a difficult time convincing his parents and hers that he has found his own partner - even though they would be very suitable candidates for an arranged marriage.
  - FraaJad 16y ago
    The Indian parents living in NA are still carrying their "culture" from 1960s (or whenever they left India) on their backs. Parents in India, esp in Cities, are open to "love marriages", as long as you don't deviate too much in terms of caste, language, social status, educational qualification and economic status :) . Yes, all that matters. Indians do not marry for love. Love is what happens afterwards.
MarkPNeyer 16y ago
My Advice: 1) Accept the person that you are, and learn to love that person. If you don't accept who you are and love yourself, others will have a hard time following suit. 2) Do the things you love. In doing so, you're likely to meet others who share the same interests. 3) Stop worrying about whether you'll ever find someone. When you do this, you project a sense of desperation, and others can pick up on this.
- sangaya 16y ago
  Great advice! I stopped trying to get dates, and focused on enjoying various activities in life. During that time I had more dates than I ever previously had. Doing something you love leads to happiness, and people seem to generally be attracted to happy people. Also, why the tight time frame? You don't get married to become happy, you get married because you're already happy.
- jongraehl 16y ago
  As a supplement to 2: make sure you are regularly meeting and talking to women, if you are not already perfectly comfortable doing so. As for worrying, definitely avoid it as long as you're doing the above.
- barmstrong 16y ago
  Great advice, and totally agree. On a more practical level, try OkCupid.com. Seriously, I've been so impressed with that site. If match.com is like myspace, okcupid.com is like facebook. High quality, smart people. The girls actually write you back. I'm averaging about 2 dates a month from OkCupid right now. Also, the site is just a well designed and fun web app, so I can appreciate it on that level.
  - starkfist 16y ago
    OkCupid is great because the women are super easy. But I'm not sure those are the ones you want to marry. However, I guess given the marriage choice between frigid and easy I would pick easy. Just be sure to get tested, and maybe don't ask about things you don't really want to know.
adamilardi 16y ago
My advice: Don't tell them that on the first date.
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wallflower 16y ago
Previously on News.YC: "Optimizing your wife If a man can expect to meet exactly N eligible women in his life, what strategy should he use to maximize his chances of choosing the very best one?" http://www.mathpages.com/home/kmath018/kmath018.htm http://www.mathpages.com/home/kmath018/kmath018.htm Just curious, are you attempting to quantitatively rank the candidates in a spreadsheet, especially the intangibles like 'as potential mother'?
dgallagher 16y ago
You should watch "The Invention of Lying." I think you'll like it. :)
- asnyder 16y ago
  That was a terrible movie. I'm sorry. It started out good, but then just went on and on and on. Why would you subject someone else to it?
Rod 16y ago
Why the rush? It's not like you're gonna be impotent at age 40 or something. The pressure to "do or die" in one year only is likely to jeopardize your effort... unless you date single, childless 40 year old women. But what self-respecting man would do such a thing when there are so many younger, hotter women?
- araneae 16y ago
  carry my child If they're a woman, they're a lesbian. I'm pretty sure men can't bear children.
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  - sqrt17 16y ago
    As common wisdom goes, children are created through an act by one male and one female human, and subsequently carry about 50% of each partner's core DNA and 100% of the female partner's mitochondrial DNA. As a result, neither egocentrical males nor lesbians can bear children by themselves, even though artificial insemination and foster mothers may make it easy to live in the illusion that it's a possibility. (Or were you implying that the backward model of gender roles that is expressed in "carry my child" would be sure to drive any sane woman away unless the OP is a lesbian woman, because lesbian women can get away with chauvinistic opinions without raising any red flags?) On the other hand, yes, his or her wife may be perfectly able to carry his or her existing child around if he or she is a single parent with a sore back.
    - hugh3 16y ago
      If an egg from Woman A gets fertilized and implanted into Woman B, then one lesbian can be carrying her lesbian partner's baby. It would be difficult to find one who would agree to this arrangement, though.
    - araneae 16y ago
      "[T]o bear" means "to give birth" in common parlance. So lesbians can certainly bear children by themselves, but men, the vast majority of which have no wombs, cannot. Citation: #3 http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bear http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bear And while you may consider yourself witty, I feel I must point out that in the context in which I was using it, "to carry" a child refers to the state of being pregnant with it. Citation: #6 http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/carry http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/carry Yet again, something the wombless may have trouble with.
weirdwonka 16y ago
choose as much exotic race as possible with highest possible iq + looks Such as if you are White I suggest a good looking Indian girl who is pursuing PhD in CS or some such
- huherto 16y ago
  care to explain?
  - weirdwonka 16y ago
    The more genetically distinct your spouse is from your self the better will your kids be. At the same time you must look out for IQ and Looks which are quite a bit genetically dependant
    - hugh3 16y ago
      The more genetically distinct your spouse is from your self the better will your kids be. Any evidence for this? (Once you get past marrying siblings and maybe cousins?)
- moultano 16y ago
  From personal experience, let's just say dating an Indian girl as a white man is non-trivial. (Assuming Indian means from-India, not just Indian descent.)
- starkfist 16y ago
  Based on your theory of genetic difference, this isn't necessarily sound advice. "White" and "Indian" are not distinct genetic groups . The genetic distance between a Swede and a Czech (both white) is bigger than the distance between a "white" southern european and someone from northern india.
MicahWedemeyer 16y ago
I know it's all in jest, but there is a lot of "me" and "my" in there. Does this prospective partner not have any ownership over the relationship and/or kids?
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executive 16y ago
John Nash?
kadavy 16y ago
How to Get a Date Online: http://www.onlinedatingmatchmaker.com/how-to-get-a-date-online/ http://www.onlinedatingmatchmaker.com/how-to-get-a-date-onli...

by jeb 16y ago

MrMatt 16y ago

You going to be split-testing?

swombat 16y ago
He'll definitely be using genetic algorithms.
- jholman 16y ago
  Before he tries that, he may have to divide and conquer.

FraaJad 16y ago

Step 0: Get adopted by Indian parents. Step 1: sit back and relax ;)

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mrtron 16y ago
I was shocked to discover how often that occurs with families, even in the north america. A friend of mine is having a difficult time convincing his parents and hers that he has found his own partner - even though they would be very suitable candidates for an arranged marriage.
- FraaJad 16y ago
  The Indian parents living in NA are still carrying their "culture" from 1960s (or whenever they left India) on their backs. Parents in India, esp in Cities, are open to "love marriages", as long as you don't deviate too much in terms of caste, language, social status, educational qualification and economic status :) . Yes, all that matters. Indians do not marry for love. Love is what happens afterwards.

MarkPNeyer 16y ago

My Advice: 1) Accept the person that you are, and learn to love that person. If you don't accept who you are and love yourself, others will have a hard time following suit. 2) Do the things you love. In doing so, you're likely to meet others who share the same interests. 3) Stop worrying about whether you'll ever find someone. When you do this, you project a sense of desperation, and others can pick up on this.

sangaya 16y ago
Great advice! I stopped trying to get dates, and focused on enjoying various activities in life. During that time I had more dates than I ever previously had. Doing something you love leads to happiness, and people seem to generally be attracted to happy people. Also, why the tight time frame? You don't get married to become happy, you get married because you're already happy.
jongraehl 16y ago
As a supplement to 2: make sure you are regularly meeting and talking to women, if you are not already perfectly comfortable doing so. As for worrying, definitely avoid it as long as you're doing the above.
barmstrong 16y ago
Great advice, and totally agree. On a more practical level, try OkCupid.com. Seriously, I've been so impressed with that site. If match.com is like myspace, okcupid.com is like facebook. High quality, smart people. The girls actually write you back. I'm averaging about 2 dates a month from OkCupid right now. Also, the site is just a well designed and fun web app, so I can appreciate it on that level.
- starkfist 16y ago
  OkCupid is great because the women are super easy. But I'm not sure those are the ones you want to marry. However, I guess given the marriage choice between frigid and easy I would pick easy. Just be sure to get tested, and maybe don't ask about things you don't really want to know.

adamilardi 16y ago

My advice: Don't tell them that on the first date.

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wallflower 16y ago

Previously on News.YC: "Optimizing your wife If a man can expect to meet exactly N eligible women in his life, what strategy should he use to maximize his chances of choosing the very best one?" http://www.mathpages.com/home/kmath018/kmath018.htm http://www.mathpages.com/home/kmath018/kmath018.htm Just curious, are you attempting to quantitatively rank the candidates in a spreadsheet, especially the intangibles like 'as potential mother'?

dgallagher 16y ago

You should watch "The Invention of Lying." I think you'll like it. :)

asnyder 16y ago
That was a terrible movie. I'm sorry. It started out good, but then just went on and on and on. Why would you subject someone else to it?

Rod 16y ago

Why the rush? It's not like you're gonna be impotent at age 40 or something. The pressure to "do or die" in one year only is likely to jeopardize your effort... unless you date single, childless 40 year old women. But what self-respecting man would do such a thing when there are so many younger, hotter women?

araneae 16y ago
carry my child If they're a woman, they're a lesbian. I'm pretty sure men can't bear children.
- deleted 16y ago
  [deleted]
- sqrt17 16y ago
  As common wisdom goes, children are created through an act by one male and one female human, and subsequently carry about 50% of each partner's core DNA and 100% of the female partner's mitochondrial DNA. As a result, neither egocentrical males nor lesbians can bear children by themselves, even though artificial insemination and foster mothers may make it easy to live in the illusion that it's a possibility. (Or were you implying that the backward model of gender roles that is expressed in "carry my child" would be sure to drive any sane woman away unless the OP is a lesbian woman, because lesbian women can get away with chauvinistic opinions without raising any red flags?) On the other hand, yes, his or her wife may be perfectly able to carry his or her existing child around if he or she is a single parent with a sore back.
  - hugh3 16y ago
    If an egg from Woman A gets fertilized and implanted into Woman B, then one lesbian can be carrying her lesbian partner's baby. It would be difficult to find one who would agree to this arrangement, though.
  - araneae 16y ago
    "[T]o bear" means "to give birth" in common parlance. So lesbians can certainly bear children by themselves, but men, the vast majority of which have no wombs, cannot. Citation: #3 http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bear http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bear And while you may consider yourself witty, I feel I must point out that in the context in which I was using it, "to carry" a child refers to the state of being pregnant with it. Citation: #6 http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/carry http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/carry Yet again, something the wombless may have trouble with.

weirdwonka 16y ago

choose as much exotic race as possible with highest possible iq + looks Such as if you are White I suggest a good looking Indian girl who is pursuing PhD in CS or some such

huherto 16y ago
care to explain?
- weirdwonka 16y ago
  The more genetically distinct your spouse is from your self the better will your kids be. At the same time you must look out for IQ and Looks which are quite a bit genetically dependant
  - hugh3 16y ago
    The more genetically distinct your spouse is from your self the better will your kids be. Any evidence for this? (Once you get past marrying siblings and maybe cousins?)
moultano 16y ago
From personal experience, let's just say dating an Indian girl as a white man is non-trivial. (Assuming Indian means from-India, not just Indian descent.)
starkfist 16y ago
Based on your theory of genetic difference, this isn't necessarily sound advice. "White" and "Indian" are not distinct genetic groups . The genetic distance between a Swede and a Czech (both white) is bigger than the distance between a "white" southern european and someone from northern india.

MicahWedemeyer 16y ago

I know it's all in jest, but there is a lot of "me" and "my" in there. Does this prospective partner not have any ownership over the relationship and/or kids?

deleted 16y ago

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executive 16y ago

John Nash?

kadavy 16y ago

How to Get a Date Online: http://www.onlinedatingmatchmaker.com/how-to-get-a-date-online/ http://www.onlinedatingmatchmaker.com/how-to-get-a-date-onli...